Not yet ready?

[Ellynn]

Ok, I didn't mean to imply you would.... be all dating her just to have sex...

But face it....its gonna be something that eventually comes up...

Plus shes 14.....in 9th grade.......has alot of growing up to do..

Plus if she said shes not ready ....there isn't much you can do... I mean yeah you can wait....but that doesn't mean she will date you...

Who knows? I mean I have already used the excuse "Im not ready to date" to avoid a relationship with a particular guy.. Mainly becuz I just couldn't see it happening... He was very sweet etc....but I saw him as a friend.... plain and simple...

[vashti]

how about I ask her for a date and probably ask "the question" (you know) to her? I think 15 is just good.

The question? Are you planning to ask her to marry you?

[Gigabitch]

No reason you can't ask her again later, but be prepared to get the same answer. If she's not ready at 14, she might not be ready at 15.

[Lil Ripsta]

Ellynn: But that doesn't mean she will date me? What the hell are you trying to say exactly? And why not?

vashti: No ma'am, this question "Would you be my girlfriend?". lol

By the way guys, I think I have a better idea. Watcha think if I go and tell her that if there's a chance that we can be more than just friends?

[Ellynn]

Well shes not dating you now is she?? Shes not ready... Maybe she does like you like that.......but is afraid of relationships and all that right now....

IT could be because of her age....or....

She might think your a nice guy but that doesn't mean she wants to date YOU.

There are alot of nice guys out there, but it doesn't mean I want to date all of them... They might be perfect in every way, but if there just isn't that chemistry or if im not feeling it, then Im NOT gonna date them. Im not saying anything is WRONG with you at all! I'm just saying it could be a possibility she feels this way.

But, to leave things open, I would just let her know that your still interested in her and want to give it a shot whenever she is ready. If your willing to wait for her....then thats your choice..

[Lil Ripsta]

She might think your a nice guy but that doesn't mean she wants to date YOU.

So in other words, she doesn't want me as her boyfriend, am I right?

Well I really don't know now. I think I'll just keep on waiting and waiting...

[Lil Ripsta]

Yesterday at school, her best friend called over so we can talk. I went for her but the girl that I am interested in went away. She seems to be shy and when I asked her friend, she told me the same thing. Then when I went back to home, I saw her online status via MSN. It was my chance to ask her why she wasn't standing near us and again, she told me she was kinda shy. lol

[Lil Ripsta]

Hello? No one's gonna reply to my message?

[Kay-C]

1 thing for good...u can start to know her better via MSN and also let her understand u deeper. Patience, you have to slowly create deeper friendship with her before dating her.

[Lil Ripsta]

Yeah I have been already talking to her via MSN for 3+ months now. Yesterday I asked for her phone number and she said she'll have to think about it because she does not normally give her number to guys but then she said "But it's different with you.". Does this mean she trusts me and I will be having her number like anyone soon? If so then she could have given her number to be yesterday ya. I dunno.

[vashti]

I think it means she will ask her mom if she is allowed to have boys call her at home.

[Lil Ripsta]

No vashti, I have asked for her cell phone number, not her home's number. Why would I ask for that anyway? lol

[vashti]

oh, okay. What was I thinking? In that case, I think it means she is asking her mom if she is allowed to have boys call her on her cell phone.

[Kay-C]

perhaps she is too shy...and she needs preparation before giving you the number and chat with you??

[Lil Ripsta]

Yeah she is a very shy-kind girl. That's the only problem with her. *sighs