i love her too much please help

[Anturo]

As long as you have a plan B in place in case s*** isnt all roses like you might think then sure do it. All I want you to do is make 100% sure that you are thinking this through with the head on you shoulders and not the one in you pants. Good luck.

[thisisnewtome]

Believe me I am prepared and expecting the worse because that's the way my life is. I know she says she loves me now but i could get there and im not good enough all I can do is train and learn everything I can to be my best. I'm not gong to change who I am for her. I'm not going to think everything will go the way I want it. I'm just hoping it will go better then here, and if not I'm no worse off then where I am now.Even tho I wanted to kill myself, I never will actually do it.Because as bad as i wanted to die fact of the mater is my pride wont let me. Killing myself would mean admitting defeat and that I wasn't strong enough to take life's bs and I will never bow down like that no matter how much I want to.

[thisisnewtome]

well ok I'm not expecting the worse but I'm prepared for it just in case we've already discuss options for just in-case things don't work out though we are both ready to make such a large commitment to someone we never met in person we know that there's a chance it wont work and that is scary and will be hard but there are measures in place to make sure i don't end up homeless or something.

[thisisnewtome]

either way that's not really what i came here to address tho the problem is not being able to focus on work or school or anything but her i need advise on how to be less clingy and obsessed with her. if anyone can id love to hear ay way of doing so

[MerryH]

either way that's not really what i came here to address tho the problem is not being able to focus on work or school or anything but her i need advise on how to be less clingy and obsessed with her. if anyone can id love to hear ay way of doing so

Alright, fine.

You need to come back to reality and face some facts. You don't love her. You can't, because you don't know her. You only know what she allows you to see. I'm not saying she's not being honest about who she is, but there are traits that cannot be conveyed through text or phone, and it's easy to only show the good parts of yourself. So this person you're obsessing about only exists in your head. That's not very sane or rational. I think realizing that will help you stop obsessing.

But aside from that, you say you keep yourself busy, so that's good. Just focus on what you're doing. Or maybe try therapy. Or try cutting her out of your life completely since you are unable to manage a healthy mindset and control yourself in a relationship.