Would you want to know if a friend has a crush on you if you're taken?

[xxazurexx]

Always the case isn't it. When we are gone, they decide they want us.

Unbeknown to my friend I have dated 2 guys, but he doesn't know I did and because I kept it to myself. But I often wonder what he would do, if I did become seriously involved elsewhere and if he'd suddenly want to be with me...hmmm?

[Ric]

Thanks, Maisie. So far most say I should keep it to myself, so I will. Even though it's hard to do as I'm a very open and honest person. :p
I'm not the kind of person to become derogatory or clingy, though. I'm way too nice a guy for that. (Well, you can easily compare me to a girl as I'm more of a girl than a guy)
But, it can still make things awkward.

[vashti]

She isn't your "friend" if you are thinking of her romantically, so I think you should quit pretending she is. This girl isn't married, so I think you should just tell her you have developed feelings for her, and that you want to date her when she loses the boyfriend. Then, quit hanging around like a puppy dog looking for scraps.

[Ric]

She isn't your "friend" if you are thinking of her romantically, so I think you should quit pretending she is. This girl isn't married, so I think you should just tell her you have developed feelings for her, and that you want to date her when she loses the boyfriend. Then, quit hanging around like a puppy dog looking for scraps.

Yes she is. Being friends and being romantically interested isn't mutually exclusive.

[vashti]

Yes she is. Being friends and being romantically interested isn't mutually exclusive.

Is this the lie you tell yourself when you hang around her? You can continue to believe this, and you will likely be carrying a torch for her for a long, long time. I prefer resolution.

[Ric]

Is this the lie you tell yourself when you hang around her? You can continue to believe this, and you will likely be carrying a torch for her for a long, long time. I prefer resolution.

Not a lie, see no reason to lie about that. Not all guys are the same.

[vashti]

Okay then, have it your way.

Happy suffering!

[xxazurexx]

Would you still continue to be her friend and if you knew there was NO chance she'd ever be in a relationship with you?

Something tells me not.

[Ric]

Would you still continue to be her friend and if you knew there was NO chance she'd ever be in a relationship with you?

Something tells me not.

Actually, yes.
If I wouldn't want to be friends with someone I certainly wouldn't want to be in a relationship with them either.

[xxazurexx]

Actually, yes.
If I wouldn't want to be friends with someone I certainly wouldn't want to be in a relationship with them either.

Well obviously you are one of the exceptions and if you are being truthful.

A lot want the friendship....with the motive of getting into the pants. And once they realise they aren't gonna get some, they ditch the woman and no longer want her friendship. Happened to me loads of times, which is why I no longer do friends with men.

[Ric]

Well obviously you are one of the exceptions and if you are being truthful.

A lot want the friendship....with the motive of getting into the pants. And once they realise they aren't gonna get some, they ditch the woman and no longer want her friendship. Happened to me loads of times, which is why I no longer do friends with men.

I see no need for that. If I just want to get laid I could easily go out and get laid. Would be much less of a hassle than pretending to be friends.

[xxazurexx]

I see no need for that. If I just want to get laid I could easily go out and get laid. Would be much less of a hassle than pretending to be friends.

But most would prefer to get into the pants of the girl he 'desires' and thinks he's in love with.

[Ric]

But most would prefer to get into the pants of the girl he 'desires' and thinks he's in love with.

True, but I've never been like most guys.
Not that I'd mind having sex with her, but there's so much more one can get. So the sex part isn't really on my mind.

Nice one @ thinks he's in love with. :p
Yeah, can't deny that. It's easy to call this feeling being in love but I do know it's likely not really that even though it might grow into that.

[xxazurexx]

True, but I've never been like most guys.
Not that I'd mind having sex with her, but there's so much more one can get. So the sex part isn't really on my mind.

Nice one @ thinks he's in love with. :p
Yeah, can't deny that. It's easy to call this feeling being in love but I do know it's likely not really that even though it might grow into that.

Well I'm not saying that sex is all he may be looking for and a guy could be looking for more with a specific female. But most will friend firstly and to get close, hoping it will lead to more, which includes sex...

How else are they supposed to get to know a female and if they don't 'friend' her first? A lot of guys just don't have the guts and to approach directly - so they friend her instead and hope she realises what a great guy he is.

[mizcocoami]

No I would not tell her if she is happy with her bf. But if you suspect that she don't like him and see them separating in the near future then I will tell her then.