Porn

[britishchick]

When ur settled down in a family with children like my husband is...porn shouldnt be one of the top things on his list of the day. He will quite happily leave me sitting in the living room all night while he sits on his pc looking at the latest porn movies he's dowloaded of all the pics he has. Now to me..thats damm right wrong! If i wanted to marry some porn obsessed freak i'd have married one of the local losers i grew up with. Then when he's all hot n bothered after watching that shit he thinks he can just walk in the living room and get some...**** no! I'm telling u...u men would not like it if we sat and watched porn all the time and ignored u men. Then when we finally get some attention we are left thinking...well shit..is he actually making love to me or is he picturing that porn star hes just watched. You men dont realise just how much it screws with our emotions and how upset and unwanted it makes us women feel. A worldwide research asked women playgirl was made more available how many of us would be interested. Do u know how many said yes??? A whopping 3%!!!! Men just need to grow up and get with the real life..not the fantasy world!

[luvtif]

yeah, he said he doesn't really ever look at it and some of it is very old so i'm really not too worried. he prob looks at it very rarely. i feel for you britishchick-that sux and I agree that that is not right. makes my situation feel like nothing though. it really is nothing. its not an issue with us-i just wondered how much was normal to have. thanks guys.

[GBRaul]

Why don't you just beat him in his own game britishchick? Go watch porn too and make him feel how he makes you feel.

[nomas]

Ha ha..I don't know if that would work, GBR..I don't think it would bother him to have her watch porn. It may turn him on to have such a dirty girl!

But who knows..

Freddie

[BillyGalbreath]

well - lets see - I dont have ANY porn on my pc. Much for the same reaosn I dont buy mags or vids from the stores. Yes i LOVE porn and I watch it all the time. A Daily basis whether i am in a relationship or not.

The thing most women dont get is the fact that its FANTASY ! Its not real.

The human male is a guy that fantasises about EVERYTHING. not just sex. But in this aspect he has found a way to get close to his sexual fantasies. PORN.

The guy knows he cant go out and have sex with who ever he wants. Even if he was given the chance - the "normal" guy would turn it down. But with porn, it is a LEGAL way to act out these fantasies without cheating on the g/f.

Also. The reason he has "SO MUCH PORN" is because porn gets old. Fast. Since this is all a fantasy world, things change on a daily basis. Not like real life. Marriage = 1 woman the rest of your life. Thats like me going out and buying a porn vid when i am 18 and watching it everyday until i am dead. Since he knows he cant go out and just get another wife or whatnot - he acts out these sudden urges in his fantasy world, I.E. porn.

This is the reason I dont save porn to my computer no matter how good it is. Also why i dont buy porn. I see them once and then its old. I am always wanting something new. Its a fantasy world. Your mind grows and wants new things. Its human nature. Fantasies grow and want new things. Maybe he is a packrat. I know I used to be. I used to have a SHIT LOAD of porn on my machine. About 17 GB worth. Thats enough porn to run a HUGE MEGA PORN PAY SITE. But after I watched a vid, I just downloaded a new one and watched it. I never went back to old porn to view. Eventually I understood this human aspect and I stopped saving the porn. I stopped buying the porn too.

The day I noticed is the day I bought a mag. I looked thru it one day and did my business. Then the next day I picked it up and saw the same shit as I saw before. It wasnt as good. The next day I did it and it was worse. the fourth day i went to do my business and I was dreading picking up that same mag. I knew what was in it. The images arent going to change. Its all in my head. I wanted something new. And thats when it hit me. I am like that with all porn. One view is enough - time for the next.

I hope I have clearified this for all of the LF members. But then again, I am bad with words and may have never gotten to my point - idk.

Point blank - It's normal to have ALOT of porn.

[Illusional]

Point blank - It's normal to have ALOT of porn.

this is the only point that i'm really concerned about. raverboy

[britishchick]

My point is..at the age of 33 when ur married...its just not normal to have so much and be so obsessed with it. Will be his own fault one day if my eyes ever wonder elsewhere! Oh and as for the "play him at his own game"..it doesnt bother him in the slightest!

[GBRaul]

Haha... you've tried it? Actually it was just some silly wild idea... I don't know. Anyway, I don't have porn on my computer either. I don't really trust any downloaded stuff cos of all the viruses (trojans, spyware etc.) going around. Actually, even without the viruses I don't think I'd be bothered to download porn anyway.

[Exodus]

britishchick, you tried talking to him about how it makes you feel? Maybe he doesn't realize. I guess this may just be because I haven't been in a relationship long enough to experience the "same old thing' ruteene that you guys talk about after being with someone for so long... but I happen to think the idea of having one person nice. I'm perfectly happy having that special someone and the only time I would look at porn is if it had been a while since anything happened and i needed a fix.

[nebulachich]

"I like the way you talk.. mm-hmmm" ~ Slingblade

Nice honesty there Panda-Man.

I know I'm a little late and a little off-topic on this one.... but... I don't know.. the more I hear about men's insatiability for orgasm and the spreading of genes I am really doubting men are monogamous by nature... women as well actually. I read an article that men look to spread their genes in as many women as possible.. whereas women are much chosier and look for the best mates to mate with. Quality vs. quantity.

Anyone? Anyone? Bueller???

[Zekk_T_Strife]

A few issues to address here. Firstly britishchicks. While I understand your inability to comrehend your husbands obsession (I don't quite understand THAT level of porn-love myself) it doesn't do much good to assault the male gender. Saying that men need to "grow up" and "stop living in a fantasy" are meaningless things to say. You're a female and I'm a male. We see the world in ENTIRELY different ways. It's not a matter of maturing, it's the way a particular individual's mind works. Your husband likes porn, it gives him pleasure, it's his thing. He chooses to go ahead and satiate that need rather than put his energy into something else and resist such a primal urge. I'd say a good 80 - 90% of men are exactly the same way. They refuse to put forth such mental prowess to fight off a basic urge. But it is there, we all have it, some of us just have more or less willpower than others. Generalization, though many times true, always offends the exceptions.

Another thing about males is that the urge is constant. If you really would rather your man come to you EVERY time he wanted some instead of going to porn you'd be raw within 3 days. Our urges are very powerful and can only be surpressed for a short period of time after release. If you truly made yourself available for his every need of release, you would surrender your position as girlfriend and in essence be renamed as a concubine. Porn isn't so bad when you think of that alternative.

[Killerbabe]

Hmmm...I'd have to disagree, Zekk. I always reasy, willing, and able! Shit, if Mike's horny he don't watch no porn, he lock the door and bang the hell out of me.

[Zekk_T_Strife]

As much as I hate typical guy quotes made by stupid guys, this one is true. "There are only two types of guys in the world: Those who masturbate, and those who lie." I'm not proud of that but it's true. If you truly feel that your boyfriend doesn't masturbate because he can get some from you whenever he wants, you're sadly mistaken.

[GBRaul]

I agree with Zekk. An average guy's sex drive is SUPERB to say the least. Probably the only thing that misleads girls is that sometimes a guy needs to "recharge" before he would get another proper erection (after he cums once).

[Zekk_T_Strife]

A guy could orgasm every 20 minutes if given the chance. Now granted this would end up making the organ VERY sore and painful as well as semenal fluid would most likely run out after a few times, but the drive is so active that the little moment after ejaculation is pretty much the only time a guy just simply couldn't or wouldn't get it up.