getting married? online bf? 3 months? o.o

[Tedel]

LOL, I love that 'those who marry in haste' quote.

Hmm you may need to explain this further Ted, lest ppl think you mean you shouldn't love your spouse. FWIW tho, I happen to agree with you. That sharp urgency should definitely be past b/f permanently binding yourself to another human. Like that other age-old quote 'never marry before you see their REAL temper'.

So it was marry in "haste"? Oops... Maybe I just got lost in translation.

Well, I didn't mean that you shouldn't love your spouse. I meant that you shouldn't have that (bloody) soap-opera infatuations some people call love.

I was talking this with a friend last weekend. Almost all our friends are already married, you know? The problem is that... five of them married pregnant, three married because they wanted to get out from home (your spouse as a passport, how pathetic ) and the other two got married because they guy was so filthy rich that they felt their lives were already "solved".

For us, it was a pity; for them... time will say. What I do know is that I want to be able to choose who to get married with, freely and responsibly. In the end, I don't think my future wife would deserve less than my real love.

[Kiechi]

yeah well i'm weirded out to, haha like it's such a big thing to even consider....

i just really don't see it happening but i don't know how i'd reject the proposal either.. sure, i want to get married but the time isnt just right. i don't like doing things, as big as this, being hurried but yeah weird enough i seem to be considering it too. im just really confused right now. and crazy.


oh by the way..
pangit = ugly , that's filipino of ugly.

LOL, thanks anyway keichi. great help son

I knew it would do some good.

[IndiReloaded]

So it was marry in "haste"? Oops... Maybe I just got lost in translation.

Marry in haste, repent at leisure. Or something like.

Well, I didn't mean that you shouldn't love your spouse. I meant that you shouldn't have that (bloody) soap-opera infatuations some people call love.

So, how would you know you're past that stage, Ted?

[Only-virgins]

This is bad. This marriage is going to be rocky.

[Tedel]

So, how would you know you're past that stage, Ted?

This is a hard question for me because I'm not married (yet), but as I see it, it is when you start contemplating and planning every single scope of your lives together, and talk about them freely and openly... like a couple.

Check this, for example: [url]http://singleasianmale.com/?p=612[/url]
Or this other: [url]http://www.equalityinmarriage.org/bmconversations.html[/url]

Maybe those two can help illustrate what I was trying to say.

[kalupe]

wow im from the philippines too. all i can say is DONT DO IT. youre far too young for that and dont even think about marrying someone you havent even met. what makes you so sure that this is really the guy you want to marry. you have to meet him first and see if you two have a real life chemistry

[Kiechi]

wow im from the philippines too. all i can say is DONT DO IT. youre far too young for that and dont even think about marrying someone you havent even met. what makes you so sure that this is really the guy you want to marry. you have to meet him first and see if you two have a real life chemistry

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[cheeze_guy]

i would meet him in person and live with him before i got married no dharma and greg shit how long did that show last anyways!

[walahaha]

It just too dangerous...
Trust me I heard lot of failure and sad stories on the net before....

Do be prepared for the worst though..

Not cursing but just a word of caution...

[kalupe]

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[Kiechi]

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kk lost me. wtf is "rin"? mother never taught me tagalog.

[lady N]

Hey, let me make this easy for you. It is not possible/ legal for you to get married without meeting. The law states that you have to be at the same place at the same time to sign the papers.