Rule of equality

[michelle23]

I think you should masturbate. its important to figure out what you like so you can teach a future partner and same vice versa. Its also a good way to release tension, stress etc and I think it could damage your sperm in the long run if you keep all the old, dead cells in there... I also think you should get counselling. Where do all these beliefs stem from? I agree that people who see sex as just sex should stick together and people who see it as an emotional act should stick together but other than that I think your expectations are unrealistic. Your not going to find a virgin now-not in college

[Noveyor2]

HeartisAching: Somehow, that is a compliment to me. : ( I like being insulted after I bear my true self out, because at the least, I'm being disliked for who I truly am. Although I do like it even more if I'm liked for who I truly am. In real life, nobody knows, they just assume I'm ordinary. When people tell me I'm cute or beautiful, I would take it as the opposite of a compliment, since I didn't earn or ask to be beautiful. However, if my girlfriend said I was beautiful, I would melt into joy, since it would be for her to keep and enjoy, that is the only purpose I see to beauty, something your born with to give to the person you love.

pcmaster: I am prepared to die alone. Getting to this point was very hard, and only provides a mild peace, but I'm hoping to find out something, to gain some knowledge or wisdom that cannot be gotten the other way, that even though I could never use it, I hope to leave it for future generations, so that they can live the life I could never live. I guess for good things to happen, somebody has to suffer to make it happen. Just like people in the past suffered so we could live in the peaceful society we have today. So maybe in the future, people will live in even better conditions in every portion of life, and I think for that, we should all be happy about. If we just give up, nothing will change, and future generations will suffer the things that the present generation suffers.

michelle23: Thank you for your kind advice and questions.

Yeah, I probably should, but I'm hoping to get a girlfriend before I do so that I can ask for her permission, because I plan on only masterbating to her in someway, whether it be photos of her or romantic thoughts about her. For me, that's the only way. I don't want to think of, or look at a random girl for that, because she isn't my girlfriend/wife/love, so I cannot do such a thing otherwise.

My beliefs stem from my observations of the world and from the time I got hit by hormones, instead of giving in to them like a normal guy, I fought it because I felt that hormones can't tell me what to do, and if my hormones wanted to throw me at a girl, I wanted to fight it and act the way I did before hormones hit. Mix that in with the fact that I thought in a romantic way, and thought about how to live so that when I meet my girlfriend, I wouldn't have done anything that would make her sad. Basically, every action I took was with her in mind, because I wanted to make her happy. Back when I came up with these beliefs, I wasn't in any religion and my family was average and laid back. They encourage getting girlfriends and party a lot, smoke and drink, and so on. I'm the only person in the family that thinks the way I do, and the only virgin adult of the family.

I think like this out of instinct and because I thought a lot about what I think my future girlfriend wanted out of me. Even though in the end I might not get a girlfriend, I will fight to get a girlfriend, but in the end, IF I don't, I wouldn't change my past either way. It was nice to live life selflessly when it comes to sexual matters. I'm kind of happy that I was one if not the only one in the Western Hemisphere to have tried so hard to save themselves for their girlfriend despite how abundant porn and knowledge of masturbation is. I am thankful for this difficult but unique experience that other guys never got to experience themselves. That there was an anomaly, that for no reason resisted the strongest type of hormone for men, and didn't give in in all their teen years{and the teen years was when it burned the worst and most powerfully.}