Its called not getting your way. Most kids will get upset and try everything in their power to get what they want. I will admit kids are getting smarter these days. And in this case you are using the reverse phsycology approach. The "if you love something, let it go. if it loves you, it will come back" approach. Whatever you want to call it. Simple reverse phsycology. And the reason you would be crushed is because you are young, and failure hurts. No matter what you fail at, it is painful. This is not love. If it was love, second base would NOT be a factor in your thought process.