Is my ex girlfriend playing me?

[FruitBandit]

Since I went to dinner with the other girl last week she has been completely distant since, I don't think she has any interest. I'm 19 days into no contact with my ex but almost all hope of anything happening is gone now. That combined with me adjusting to university life and failing most of my subjects has just sent me in to depression. I don't see any way of things getting better, I've had my friends and seen a counselor at uni but nothing helps. I really feel like I'm at rock bottom with no hope and I just want to end it to end my misery.

[Wakeup]

^^^ You should be talking to your counsellor and telling him/her that, Fruit.

I'll ask though; Surely you are not letting some chick make you think you don't need to be around? Get up and get yourself back on academic track. Put your focus there and quit letting her rent space in your brain for free. No one should have so much hold over you that you resolve to say things like what you've said in your last post.

You're the prize, son. Strive to realize that.

[pcmaster]

Well you are depressed. I suggest you go to psychiatrist and get on meds. Since nothing else helps you medication will help you for sure. Of course while Im writing this you might feel already great but if your depressed state lasts then Im damn serous about medication. It would make you feel better and it would be easier to get on with your life and solve problems.

[FruitBandit]

Thanks for your replies. Medication sounds like a good idea. I don't know how easy it would be to get medication, but I hope I can because I just cannot stand being like this much longer.

[Wakeup]

Go to your family doctor or the school's doc and tell him your situation. He'll be able to at least prescribe a mild anti-anxiety and/or anti-depressive. If you decide you don't like being on those drugs then go back to the doctor before discontinuing them... you'll have to taper off rather then go cold turkey to avoid going into an even deeper tail spin.

Make the appointment now.

[pcmaster]

I suggest you go to psychiatrist straight away or ask your family doctor to refer to psychiatrist . Because family doctor dont have much knowledge of those things but psychiatrist are proffesional and thats all he does - prescribes this stuff. He listens to how you feel to know what meds to give you.
Of course counseling can help too besides meds but you have to be very lucky to find good counselor.

[Wakeup]

You HAVE to get a referral from your family doctor before a psychiatrist will see you. He can see a psychologist anytime he wants though a psychologist can't prescribe drugs. Least that's how it works here.

[FruitBandit]

My ex girlfriend's sister is keen on me, should i go for it? Or would it make my ex girlfriend hate me forever? I got some medication by the way.

[pcmaster]

Ha ha are you not afraid she would be just like her sister? You know they are sisters so bet they are used to share their clothes, ex boyfriends etc. I say go for it if you think you are ready.

[FruitBandit]

Would it make her hate me though?

[pcmaster]

You cant predict that. She might not care or she might care. You are not together anymore so you shouldnt worry about her feelings. I would give it a shot.

As the title says -

Choose a Woman
Who Chooses You

If a man wants a woman who doesn't want him, he cannot win. His
neediness will undermine any possible relationship, and his woman will
never be able to trust him. A man must determine whether a woman
really wants him but is playing hard to get, or whether she really doesn't
want him. If she doesn't want him, he should immediately cease
pursuing her and deal with his pain by himself
If you ever find yourself in a situation where you want to be with
a woman but she doesn't want to be with you, you must speak
with your friends. Ask them to be honest with you. Ask them if
they think this woman really does want to be with you, or if she
really doesn't.
If your friends honestly tell you that this woman doesn't want
to be with you, it is over. You cannot enjoy a good relationship
with her, even if she changes her mind. Once she feels your
neediness, once she feels that you need her more than she needs
you, she will never trust your masculine core
The priority of the masculine core is mission, purpose, or direction
in life. The priority of the feminine core is the flow of
love in intimacy If a woman feels your feminine is stronger than
hers—if she feels that the intimacy is more important to you than
to her—then she will naturally animate her masculine. She will
want space, she will want freedom to pursue her own direction,
and she will be repulsed by your clinginess.
You are only punishing yourself when you want to be in a
relationship with a woman more than she wants to be in a relationship
with you. Of course, you must discriminate between
whether she is playing "hard to get" or whether she is genuinely
less interested in the relationship than you. This is why you
should ask your friends, and even her friends. If it turns out that
she really doesn't want to be with you as much as you want to be
with her, then it is time to realize the relationship won't work. In
such a case, the poles have become reversed, with your feminine
desire for love meeting her masculine desire for freedom. This is
not viable grounds for intimacy between a man with a masculine
essence and a woman with a feminine essence. It is better to
move on and work with your hurt than it is to continue demonstrating
that your feminine desire is stronger than hers.