How to choose?

[jane]

.. you know it..!

lol

[Pretender]

Some of you blow my mind with the fact that you can say his current girlfriend doesn't trust him. To be frank she has all the reason in the world to be upset with him going out with another girl, ESPECIALLy since she isn't invited. Now if it was just friends going out the g/f would of been invited and no bad feelings would of came up. If your g/f has a problem with you going out on the town with this college mate then I say it is totally reasonable.

You can't say she doesn't trust you because she doesnt' want you hanging out with another girl unsupervised, especially one that you have feelings for. You need to step back and put yourself in your g/fs shoes.

As for staying with ur current g/f I say you need to let her go because obviously you dont DESERVE/LOVE her if you have all these feelings for another girl. Just be honest with yourself and stop putting the blame on your current g/f because she doesnt want you to hang out with an attractive older college girl who you have feelings for. Could you be a little more insensitive? Sometimes we all need to just look at it from the other persons point of view.

[sfalexi]

In all fairness, I must point out that while OBSESSIVE jealousy isn't healthy, I'd be freaked out if a girl WASN"T a little jealous and protective of me. If your girlfriend all of a sudden starting hanging out with some guy named danny. Lets say you call her to get together on Friday night. She says, "I can't. I'm going to the movies with Danny." "Who's danny?" "Just someone from school." And you're gonna be ok with this Danny person moving in on your girl and not give it a second thought?

Just pointing out that some jealousy is good. I'd be upset if my girlfriend didn't seem to care about whether she could possibly lose me or not.

Alexi

[earlydecember]

actually my girl friend told me i could go....

[dreamygirl]

You just have to make a decision, I agree with Pretender on the trust-thing, you say she doesn't trust you but she has reason not to trust you doesn't she?
I'v been in your situation and I'm not proud of how I handled it, I kissed the other guy, we saw each other without my boyfriend knowing about it, this went on for about a month, eventually I chose to stay with my boyfriend and confessed what had happened, we worked it out and are still together (almost 3 years now)) the other guy is still a friend of mine, and yes, he and my boyfriend hate each other's guts.
I'd advise you to make a decison and soon, don't keep doubting or you'll doubt forever