Have you ever had someone try to ruin your reputation?

[IndiReloaded]

Sounds to me he's looking to get a rise from you.

Reputation is what other people know about you. Honor is what you know about yourself.

Don't stoop to his level. If you perhaps are slightly responsible for what he's doing (only you know this for sure), try to learn from it & don't repeat past mistakes.

If it gets too bad, I would make a police report or move business location. But avoid contact w/this person, it will not help.

[damn2008]

He's angry, upset, whatever...and unfortunately some people resort to these types of tactics. It is often times a reflection of the person themselves why they fall back to this.

I have information that could DESTROY my ex-g/f. It could destroy her reputation, her relationship with her family, and quite possibly her career. Knowing this information was actually a partial reason why we ended up breaking up as it was tough for me to deal with for a long time. I still could drop it, but I don't. Despite it all, I consider myself by nature..an honorable person. And I am a HUGE proprietor of "do unto others as you'd do unto yourself" and because she never really has wronged me in any way (I really don't care for our break-up anymore,we've both moved on and I'm happier)...I have no reason to wrong her. Whether it's b/c she knows I know this or whatever, I don't care... I'm just not the person to air out dirty laundry for revenge or to "get back at them for breaking up".

[ecojeanne]

well the most frustrating thing about this is that during our relationship he always lied, it drove me crazy.....i do pride myself on my honesty, ethics and morals, i don't know what lies he's telling people but i am letting it go unless he goes too far. i do think eventually people will realise because he has a tendancy to tell wild stories...including about his last gf before me....in the end i didn't believe a word that came out of his mouth

[IndiReloaded]

He's your ex now, so his issues are no longer your concern. Behaviour like his *always* comes back to bite in the butt. If not with you, then with someone else. Just be secure in that knowledge & carry on w/your life.

[Dasein]

well the most frustrating thing about this is that during our relationship he always lied, it drove me crazy.....i do pride myself on my honesty, ethics and morals, i don't know what lies he's telling people but i am letting it go unless he goes too far. i do think eventually people will realise because he has a tendancy to tell wild stories...including about his last gf before me....in the end i didn't believe a word that came out of his mouth

Damn! He sounds like my ex. Not only was my ex a liar but he was a BAD liar. I could always tell. However he had other people hook, line and sinker. I remember him retelling a story once to a couple we just met about our vacation. He couldn't even tell that without lying.

Anyway, I know that he is out there making up stories about me. At first it was distressing me and then I felt sorry for him. I mean how sad is someone that they can't just move on without being vindictive. It says a lot about their character.

Just take the high road. If they make up stories YOU know the truth. People always eventually show their true colours. Just hold firm and try not to let it get to you.