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  1. 01-03-09, 04:39 PM #16
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    BLu - i was thinking similarly to you with my break up. But i realised that there was no chance of a future together with her if i didnt take some control. As i saw on this site its not nice guys that finish last its the insecure ones. No girl wants an insecure doormat.

    My opinion is that she is most probably playing you, but it could also be just that she is having fun for now and will come back to you. the thing is that either way you need to end it & move on (chase and withdraw). in a couple of months contact her and say how great things are going for you (even if they arent - be up beat). See where that takes you. You have compromised your principles, placed her on pedestal (i think at least) and isnt it tearing you up inside wondering if she is with another guy at this exact moment feeling for him what she doesnt for you.

    One of your biggest problems with a future with her is that she lied to you. Over and over. It is theoretically possible to get over that, but realistically 99.99% unlikely, try see it for what it is coz if you are anything like me – you are having one of the worst mind****s known. Cut communication, say you need to do this for yourself, sont contact her and say to her that its over, be a bit angry (don’t shout – just tell her she has been dishonest and immature) saying you have become a doormat and it stops here.

    You need to regain the dignity you have lost. And you are strong enough bud, you just need to say the words to her. Its going to be hard, that companionship lost, but do all the cliched breakup activities. Meet new people, gym, work harder, go sky diving, hike anything to keep your mind off it. Stay away from the song ‘breakeven’ ‘the script’. It’s a killer for me to listen to.
  2. 01-03-09, 04:54 PM #17
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    Quote Originally Posted by paul_mot View Post
    wtf man WTF, what is wrong with u people, am i the only guy who thinks like me on the planet?

    how could you forgive cheating, cheating is not forgivable at all, dont tell me about love or anything like this sh**, this goes for girls too. once cheated = Dump + some hurting bad words

    and one more thing, u should keep looking at ur girl, to prevent such cheats, of course if it is possible(in ur situation it wasn't), and even if u trust her, keep this possibility in ur head, this one day might save u from doing a crime or committing suicide.
    um, what?


    Quote Originally Posted by Aeradalia View Post
    ...There isn't any quick and easy fix to this...
    Yes there is... Dump. Her. Ass. and do it with a temper. Make damn sure she KNOWS your pissed, and it's her fault! (Non-violently of course)


    I know it's not easy to hear, but man, your being a chump to this b**ch. And what's worse, deep down you know it (that's why you came here). And she knows it too. She's going to KEEP cheating on you AND TELLING YOU (to rub it in your face), because she knows you'll eventually fold and "forgive" her.

    Please man, don't do this to yourself any more. If not for yourself, do it for other guys stuck in your position. Or hell, even some women too.

    Don't be THAT guy... i beg you.
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  3. 02-03-09, 01:37 AM #18
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    Quote Originally Posted by Aeradalia View Post
    There isn't any quick and easy fix to this. You can't make this work. There is no love now or ever will be in this relationship.
    Quote Originally Posted by The_bobb View Post
    Yes there is... Dump. Her. Ass. and do it with a temper. Make damn sure she KNOWS your pissed, and it's her fault! (Non-violently of course)

    Dumping her may be quick... but it certainly won't be easy. There will be pain and there will be heartache... in the end you will be free and a better person for it. You'll learn how to stand up for yourself and realize not only can you do better than her... but you have to do better than her if you ever want to be truly loved.
    "The weakest soul, knowing its own weakness, and believing this truth that strength can only be developed by effort and practice, will, thus believing, at once begin to exert itself, and, adding effort to effort, patience to patience, and strength to strength, will never cease to develop, and will at last grow divinely strong."

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    thanks guys. I just ended things with her and I already feel better.. I no longer need to worry what she is doing with that guy, which is a greater relieve that i thought it would be.
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    I refuse to believe people like Blurdragon exist. This can't be real.


    Though, if it is real congrats on gaining your sanity back!
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    Dude,

    She's playing you and she won't stop. I know how hard it is to see someone who you love completely disrespect you but, you've gotta cut her off and eliminate her from your life. You'll find someone else and move on.
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    GOOD JOB BLUE!! There is no REASON for you take that kind of crap... i hope you meet someone nice, and real soon too...


    Seriously, Good for you brother..
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