those ebooks are stupid, and personally I find that you are manipulating into trying to get them to "miss you." But how long will that last if you do get back together...
That being said.. No contact will help you reevaluate your feelings. If in a month or so you still feel the same, I think you should let her know how you feel BUT do it with CONFIDENCE.
Speaking from personal experience, if someone doesnt want to be with me thats fine.. its not going to get me to like them more. People arent robots and these strategies are good in GETTING OVER someone... NOT for getting them back.
Lets say you meet up with her and dont bring up the relationship.. then you will wonder, is she just hanging out because she wants to be friends.. It makes it that much harder.
It depends on why you broke up.. if its because she lost that "spark" then not bringing up the relationship is probably a good idea.... but if its because they need time to deal with issues, then I dont see the problem in just finding out.