Originally Posted by
kageri
Yes for going on 4 years now.
I was using those examples to show marriage changes nothing. Getting married makes the relationship no different. It doesn't keep it from ending. It doesn't increase or decrease your promise of staying together. It's a scrap of paper and nothing more. What happens after your married depends on the relationship you made and that relationship is the same without marriage. Why marriages break up is not really any different than why relationships without marriage end.
No offense, but 4 years is still honeymoon stage. Come back when you have 10, 20 years under your belt.
If its a scrap of paper tho, why did you bother? EDIT - okay, b/c you didn't like the bother of 'domestic partnership' status or something. I wonder: did you elope or did you invite friends and family to your 'piece of paper' ceremony?
Anyway, I could pick apart your posts further, there's some definite inconsistencies, but suffice it to say you sound like someone who decided to make a Statement and is now stuck trying to justify her position. Commitments only have the value we give to them and, if you say your marriage is just a piece of paper, well that's a shame. I wish you well 10 years from now when things get difficult.
Last edited by IndiReloaded; 15-11-12 at 12:21 PM.
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