No sex with the bf for 11 months

[sadbunnyface]

Ok I've been with my man for just over a year now but there's one big issue with our relationship. I have a normal healthy sex drive and enjoy having sex and having intimacy with my partner but for the past 11 months there's been nothing, no sex, no foreplay, no intimacy, no passion ect. It's been a huge mind **** for me, I've tried talking to him about it and it goes no where, I've even questioned weather I'm attractive or not to which I've never done before. I'm at my wits end and don't know what to do, I really do need advice people I can't go on like it is.

11 months is a LONG time not to be intimate and sexual with your partner if they are not overseas from you, etc. Do you try and he always has an excuse? Does he masturbate a lot in those 11 months or he doesn't he want to do that? Could be some sort of depression, or health issue, no heart issues are there? Has he been to the doctor to see about lack of sex drive? he should.
You are VERY attractive, so it shouldn't be an issue on how you look, imo.

[misombra]

I had a friend who went through this very thing. Turns out he was addicted t porn.

[feeze]

I've tried talking so many time to him about it but I always get a different response. I've also tried to get him to see a doctor about all of this. It's come to a huge argument tonight and I've told him I can't be with someone who doesn't did me attractive and always know that I'm not good enough for them as that alone is heart breaking enough. Yes your all right that 11 months is far too long and I should have to put up with it.

[feeze]

He's addicted to his computer games, it's like he's married to his computer and I'm just not a priority.

[feeze]

I guess this is his loss and someone else's gain.

[LifeInflux]

I guess this is his loss and someone else's gain.

Yes.. there are plenty of men who would treat you fantastically.

The thing about immersing yourself in video games is, in many ways, this is the same as drinking or drugs. Video games can sometimes be an outlet for different avenues of unhappiness in his life.

Sometimes, it doesn't have to be with your specifically, but I would stand to reason that he has probably checked out of the relationship for a while and is now using constant gaming or similar things as an emotional crutch instead of focusing on the actual relationship problems.

Then again it could be a number of different things he deems as being unhappy in his life.

The problem with talking to him about it is.... now he's going to feel like its pressured, and thats the last thing a man in this situation wants. The relationship is most likely comfortable, and in cases like that, its easy for the passion to cease if both partners aren't completely invested.


Sometimes, taking a lot of time apart can help... as absence makes the heart grow fonder.... but it might also give you both some clarity on the relationship as a whole.


Maybe he'll be able to check back in physically, but if not, I think its safe to say you should start pursuing other avenues without him.

[sadbunnyface]

I've tried talking so many time to him about it but I always get a different response. I've also tried to get him to see a doctor about all of this. It's come to a huge argument tonight and I've told him I can't be with someone who doesn't did me attractive and always know that I'm not good enough for them as that alone is heart breaking enough. Yes your all right that 11 months is far too long and I should have to put up with it.

If he won't change even for himself, nonetheless you, I think the cause is lost, he likes how things are maybe? Or he is scared to see a doctor and find out? I had an ex who looooooooooooove xbox so much he called it his 'se(x)-box'.. Might be time to give one last ultimatum and then move on. Nice new pics you posted.

[rafterman]

I guess this is his loss and someone else's gain.

You said it... I know heaps of guys, that would serve it up to you.... Its seems like you keep fit, plenty of guys out there that appreciate that. I'd say give him his marching orders. Plenty of guys out there to date...IMO

[Calvin]

no sex for 11 months?? out of a 1+ year relationship? red flag

[Kromat83]

seems strange that a girl like you is unattractive.
What caught his eye in the first place ? and there should've been a red flag after just a little while of no sex for either person.
It's usually the guy that is worried about this, but when the girl worries, then there's something wrong there.
You keep fit and I find you attractive, if the personality is there, then he's missing out and it'll be someone else's gain.
He also needs to put in the effort, and it seems to be to comfortable for him.
Decide now what you see, or you'll regret it later.
Is it finally over then ?

[horndog]

Bottom line: I would bet the farm that he is stuffing his wood into another womans furnace.

[michelle23]

have you dumped him yet? he either has an addiction, is gay, f**king someone else, performance anxiety, erectile dysfunction or extremely low testosterone levels.

you can either stay, have a sexless boring relationship and argue all the time or leave and find a guy who will make you feel wanted and desired and bang you to your hearts content. your choice

my opinion: you should have left 9-10months ago. leave him to play his video games and you go play with someone else..

[taichi]

feeze,

there are few question need to ask yourself before making any decision.

are you still love him?
what make you all together at the initial stage (11months ago)?
do you want to be his partner for the rest of your life?
how can you bring him back to the ideal track?
are you able to do so?

[taichi]

just to add some comment.

Dating should be enjoyable and have fun with it!! don't you think so?

[Kromat83]

Sex is like a role playing videogame game, the more experience you get, the higher level you'll be, allowing you to us more skills.
The only thing he is gaining experience with, is being more proficient with his hands and his sword.
P.S I don't know one guy that wouldn't want to get in the bedroom as yourself.
He seems very boring, if all he thinks about is his gaming, and as you seem very a give, there are lots of activities that can be explored outside the bedroom, and someone would be lucky to have an individual as yourself, I know I would be.