How do I get my ex-girlfriend back?

[Heratriumphant]

All right if you want to do this and do it your way...

Ask her out to dinner, don't bring up any relationship issues just hang out have fun and charm her.

Anytime she mentions "being friends" just smile and calmly say "we aren't friends" and change the subject.

Keep asking her out. Keep having fun. Keep saying "we aren't friends". Lather, rinse, repeat.

Eventually you'll slide into a relationship OR she'll get frustrated and bring up the past issues you need to deal with.

Or maybe she'll get creeped out and run away.

Not the way I'd want to start (or restart) a relationship, but given your sitch it could work.

[pisces7378]

All right if you want to do this and do it your way...

Ask her out to dinner, don't bring up any relationship issues just hang out have fun and charm her.

Anytime she mentions "being friends" just smile and calmly say "we aren't friends" and change the subject.

Keep asking her out. Keep having fun. Keep saying "we aren't friends". Lather, rinse, repeat.

Eventually you'll slide into a relationship OR she'll get frustrated and bring up the past issues you need to deal with.

Or maybe she'll get creeped out and run away.

Not the way I'd want to start (or restart) a relationship, but given your sitch it could work.

You're an angel. Thanks!

[damn2008]

I wish you the best bro, but I think you might run into some trouble.

Considering she is 21 and you're 31...you are always going to want so much more and she is always going to be confused until she reaches "that" age. You know, the age where girls start to know better?

But playing it cool and no pressure can work, but keep your options open in case everything bombs out.

[Heratriumphant]

Don't thank me yet. You still need to figure out how you'll handle it if she starts seeing someone else while you're playing the long game.

It's a serious posibility.

[pisces7378]

Oh I know... I am totally like walking in front of a firing squad. And it might just blow my head off. But I have played everything so fcuking safe my entire life. Obviously the last ass kicking wasn't enough to beat it out of me.

Who knows?!? I'd say I have about an 85% chance of failure. But the 15% chance of success sounds better to me than the 100% chance of kicking myself in the balls for the rest of my life for not trying.

Come on ladies... does no one have any romance anymore? I hate it that after seeing a romantic movie, all girls turn to their boyfriends and say, "Would you go through all that to get me back if you lost me?!?" But when the same situation comes up in real life, everyone is so damn cynical. Everyone's advice is ALWAYS, forget her. Move on. She's not worth it. blah blah... Is no one, "worth it" anymore? Fcuck that! I may be nailing my own coffin shut, but I care about this girl enough to at least give it a try. Because I can't just "forget her" or pretend she isn't worth it.

And I hope that everyone in here meets someone at some point that they can feel this same way about. Jeez.

[Heratriumphant]

Well as a fellow Pisces, and thus a hopeless if somewhat reluctant romantic, I applaud you.

Goodluck, and here's hoping it doesn't blow up in your face.

[pisces7378]

Thanks. I am pretty sure it will blow up in my face. But as I said, sometimes there are things where having them blow up in your face it better than not having tried.

I've had to many nights laying in bed thinking, "Damn it, why didn't I just do that, or say that to that person..."

Screw that.

[pisces7378]

Holy Shit!!! You will never guess what just happened.

She just texted me. She said, "So, are you never going to talk to me again?"

What do I do? Keep in mind, I haven't heard from her in a month.

[Heratriumphant]

Text back: "sure, let's go get some dinner this Friday"

[pisces7378]

I texted her back... here is the text'versation:

Her: "So are you never going to talk to me again?

Me: Sure we can talk

Her: Well good. What are you up to?

Me: Just watching TV. Want to go for a walk or something? Hint: The "or something" means, drink wine on my porch

Her: That sounds fantastic. I'm in for the night though. Have stupid work early in the morning. How's the new job?

Me: In for the night? That's not like you. Works good.

Her: Oh, I wish it wasn't so. But I have a meeting with my supervisor early. So u like CNN?

Me: You going soft on me eh? Oh well, night night. CNN's is exciting to say the least.

Her: Going soft? Never!!! Well that's wonderful about ur job. I'm glad it's exciting.

Me: Thanks.

Her: How's everything else?

Me: Really good. My house renovations, friends, family... all really good. Really busy, but even that's nice. You?

Her: That's wonderful. I'm pretty good. My internship is kind of overwhelming, but I'm learning a lot.

Me: Guess internships can either be nothing but fetching coffee where you learn nothing, or 60 hour work weeks full of stress, but you learn a lot.

Her: True

Me: Well good luck with all that.

And that was it. She didn't respond after that. I imagine she fell asleep. That girl could fall asleep on a roller coaster.

I don't know how I feel about all that. I didn't want to bust out some "Oh baby, I've missed you so much... I love you... come back to me... blah blah blah" in some text messages. But I didn't want to be absolute stand-offish and make her think that I am somehow annoyed that she is contacting me. I think my final "Well good luck with all that" might have been taken that way.

Once, again she reached out to me for something at least, and I am not better off now than I was before. Or am I?

Ladies... what do you think of all this?

[kuaisudi]

I think a woman feels to leave her boyfriend, but some objective factors, that is, she really love you. Want with you, perhaps she doesn't fit in with that you, but I can see from you, your girlfriend still love you, do you still have the feeling of, I think you should have a good communication, you should know what is now the most needed for her, she is good to love her, her, I believe one day you will again go together, blessing you