Racist, ignorant parents

[gatorjosh]

I wish she would find a phone and call.

[bluesummer]

Yeah, its still a tough decision. I mean if I had been forced to choose between my parents and a guy, unfortunately I would probably pick my parents out of a sense of obligation. Especially at 19. I definately would not be happy about it though.

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You have to look at the bigger picture. She's not just choosing a guy over her parents. She's choosing her personal happiness, sanity, and LIFE.

If she continues to allow her parents to manipulate and control her in this manner, it's going to affect her in more ways than just in her relationships. Sometimes you have to choose YOU first. There are times when family comes second, especially when they are negatively affecting your life and future.

[Ellynn]

I see what your saying Bluesummer. I guess I cannot relate too well because I have always been close to my parents. They never made me choose between them and someone else and always let me make my own decisions. Currently I take care of my mom(she has bone cancer)...and well my dad passed away two yrs ago. So, its a bit of a different situation.


I agree that if they were in good health and put me in this situation, It would be best to put my foot down and let them know that what I want comes first. But, I guess this girl just needs to find the courage to do that. Because in the long run I agree with it effect her life negatively.