Life without Sex

[lilwing89]

oh....
hey why the hell did it post my post twice????

[Tone]

LoL dunno, you can delete one though - just click on Edit and at the top click "Delete this post"

[shh!]

What do you do when you are recently single and facing a life without sex after enjoying it as a constant?
seriously.
I am not interested in one night stands, or jumping in the sack prematurely with a man. I want sex within the context of a relationship, but that may not happen for a while.
I know I can redirect my energy to other things, and please myself, but I'm finding myself missing that human contact and warmth that happens in a sexual situation. Part of it is missing him, but another part of it is missing the raw carnality and experience of sex.
What have others in my situation done?

Cybog had a link to some blow-up doll website...

But seriously, I don't think there is anything you can do to replace the kind of contact you would get from a human being. Sorry. Your thread is really very depressing, the more I think about it. I guess I would try to keep myself busy in other ways and pretend I wasn't bothered by it.

[Lloyd95]

Fushd-Did you think about working as an Escort? YOu'd have all the sex you want and get paid like $300/hr.??

I'm kidding of course. Don't sweat it. It'll end up pre-occupying your brain so much that it'll make it worse. Go out and have fun with your friends. I don't know how old you are, but if your "youngish", it'll happen; a relationship I mean. And probably NOT when you're out looking for it. That's how it usually works.

Guys can smell "desparate" on girls; and let me tell you, when you're a younger guy, it doesn't smell nice. go out. Have fun. show confidence.

[shh!]

I may regret asking this, Lloyd, but what is "youngish"?

[bluesummer]

I went without sex for quite awhile between relationships, and it was quite an adjustment. I started working out six days a week hard core to fill the void of physical activity I wasn't getting in bed......I ended up with a nicer body, more self confidence, and someone to have sex with lol.

[flushd]

Settle down people! lol

Listen, I'm not desperate, and I'm a woman (everyone seems to assume I'm a guy because I like sex?!).

Yeah, some people were honest: deal with it. Looks like that's the deal.

It's different if you've had sex. If you are a virgin, you can't even comprehend. Sorry, it's the truth.

I already work out like a fanatic: I'm a bodybuilder. I have a tonne of hormones though and working out makes me hornier. So many hot guys in the gym all sweaty and luscious.

I actually thought the guys would give a bit more tips: like when you are super horny how to you bring yourself to a normal level?
I've heard: I go and jack off in the bathroom haha
or I think of unpleasant things
or I keep away from hot chicks



So, I just gotta deal eh. sucks to be me.

[Lloyd95]

Ok, I'm a guy and yes, rubbing one out in the bathroom helps.

Shh!-"youngish" I'd say would be <30-something. At least where the bar scene wouldn't be too bad. If she were 50+, might be harder to find someone to satisfy her needs, I think. I'm not that old yet, so I might be mistaken, so people don't flame me.

[shh!]

What about the people between 30 and 50, you bastard?
:-D

[Only-virgins]

What do you do when you are recently single and facing a life without sex after enjoying it as a constant?
seriously.
I am not interested in one night stands, or jumping in the sack prematurely with a man. I want sex within the context of a relationship, but that may not happen for a while.
I know I can redirect my energy to other things, and please myself, but I'm finding myself missing that human contact and warmth that happens in a sexual situation. Part of it is missing him, but another part of it is missing the raw carnality and experience of sex.
What have others in my situation done?

Buy a fast car and floor it. Always puts a smile on everyones face..and makes them forget everything. Seriously..The only thing you can do if a relationship and casual sex is not available is probably what most wise LF member will tell you...keep yourself busy/occupied with other things and try and forget..doesnt always work though.

[Ellynn]

I know for me as a female I can go quite some time without even thinking about it.....and then I'll have something happen that will make me think about it all the time for awhile.

[Only-virgins]

then I'll have something happen that will make me think about it all the time for awhile.

Yea, like my hottness walking past you in a public mall or something.

[Ellynn]

What do you do when you are recently single and facing a life without sex after enjoying it as a constant?
seriously.
I am not interested in one night stands, or jumping in the sack prematurely with a man. I want sex within the context of a relationship, but that may not happen for a while.
I know I can redirect my energy to other things, and please myself, but I'm finding myself missing that human contact and warmth that happens in a sexual situation. Part of it is missing him, but another part of it is missing the raw carnality and experience of sex.
What have others in my situation done?

I know exactly how you feel. It is really a sucky situation isn't it? I know one night stands, friends with benefits, and just jumping in the sack right away isn't my thing either. Too damn risky.... I focus myself on work......and I work out also... I also just revolve my life around my friends and my family. That seems to work for awhile.....but yeah the physical contact is missed greatly.... I also have a small ray of hope that eventually I'll get into another relationship.... But right now it just seems most men are looking for just a lil fun on the side. Makes me feel kinda cheap and used....so thats out. I'm just holding out for something good that comes along. In the meantime there is always B.O.B. LOL