literally on the verge of separating from my wife-is our marriage still "saveable"?

[HeartIsAching]

Thats what i was afraid of. You don't evem think its worth bothering saving?

Hell no. Not sure why you'd want to.

Seriously, you can't make her fall in love with you again, and you can't make her not love the other guy. At best you'd have a convenient safe place for her while she continues her relationship with the other guy. It's over, accept that.

[SunShineToeS]

justin, you are not spineless, just in love with your wife. There is nothing wrong with wanting to keep your family together. I must admit that the schoolmate guy worries me...that's just not 'normal'...especially when she is sleeping with him in lieu of her husband, innocent or not. Definately address that when you have your talk. I have a website dedicated to saving marriages, but they wont let me post it because i am new! Best of Luck, and don't give up on your marriage!