Originally Posted by
lovely2082
Do you mean be aggressive and turn a girl on? personally. I like my hair being pulled on... Massage her head a bit and yank on her hair a lil.. wait for a reaction ... if its a good reaction, its a green light to do it more and maybe a bit harder.. thatll get her motor running. lol. Good luck!
Most women, IME, will not give a visible positive reaction in the case of an alpha male showing dominance, i.e. hair pulling. If they do nothing, that's the positive reaction. If they say "stop it", that's a negative reaction. And you better read up on safety before you get into the rough stuff. There's a way to pull hair, and a way to NOT pull hair. You don't want to grab a small lock of hair, because it might pull out a few hairs!
I've been with a few true submissives too. They had great communication and told me what they like. And I don't mean just about sex, I mean foreplay. One girl like to be touched lightly on her arm, and liked me to tell her, while we were in a public place, what I was going to do to her when we got home.
HOWEVER, a man must first develop a relationship and trust with a woman. This stuff doesn't work on the first or second date.
- A man must listen to her emotions.And prove he is listening by reflecting what she is saying, and showing some empathy.
- A man must share personal emotional things about himself.
- Show her you are a decent, reliable guy and you are not creepy. Don't rush into sex. But be honest about yourself and your intentions. I don't like one-night stands, and girls seem to be pleased by this.
- Have good hygiene as many women have extra sensitive noses.* If you don't know what this means, you are in trouble. Before a date, take a shower, shave, and brush your teeth. I always keep a tiny spritzer with mouthwash in my car. Just before I meet her I use it. I buy the refillable kind, it's about 2 inches long, 1/4 inch wide.
* Women with kids seem to have the most sensitive noses. It must be a hormonal change or something.
That's a start anyway.
Last edited by bulrush; 13-10-11 at 11:51 PM.
I have a long time interest in psychology, specializing in relationship dynamics for 30 years.
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