for the females on the love forum

[Clifton]

mostof the time im 5 minutes from putting a gun to my head

[sfalexi]

Funny thing is how often we are double standards. We don't want people to judge us for our looks and complain about how people don't give us a chance, but then when we go out to a bar we don't even look twice at the 'fat girl' at the end of the bar or that really nasty looking chick that's smiling at us.

Just don't worry about it dude. If you WANT to change something and give something a try, go ahead. Wanna try growing your hair out and see if that'll turn a few more heads, go for it. Wanna try growing/shaving facial hair, go for it. It'll make you happy and sometimes a change is fun to do anyway.

Alexi

[Clifton]

well i wouldnt go after a fat girl, but my standards are not ridiculous..i dont go for females who look 'perfect' or anything, doesnt matter what i look like though-ill still be unhappy if im alone lol

[tooxshort]

i dunno ... my mentality is "I know I'm ugly, but I don't give a **** ..." ... i dunno about ur situation tho ... isnt there a group of girls within ur circle of friends?

i dont think anyone has to change anything ... cuz there's always someone out there that'll be attracted to them ... they can be fine as hell to me, but the next person can think they're ugly ... different strokes for different folks ...

kind of how we differ in our music taste ...

[Clifton]

all my friends are outof state- only people i really knew here was my ex and her friends, and only people i talk to now are females so

[Breezy18]

Okay, here's the thing, you have to find it in yourself. I know it might sound trite, but true beauty lies within. When you find that place, it will shine through and you will exude charm, appeal and most of all attractiveness.
Find it. Believe it. Live it.
Clifton, I know how you feel, and you are thinking it's far easier for me to say this than for you to do it. Believe me, I know. I live it everyday. Squirrley was right when she said that neither her nor I believe there are men out there. Truth be told, there aren't any men out there that I deem worthy enough to get to know, who want to know me.
Like Alexi said most of us have a double standard. But, I have learned through time and healing to be okay with rejection, because I realize it's not "me" personally they are rejecting, and I have done the very same thing to more than 2 or 3 guys who weren't exactly to my liking. It was nothing personal. I'm not naive enough to believe I'm the prettiest, or the sweetest, or the smartest, or the wittiest, or the sexiest girl out there. BUT, in my own way, I am pretty, I am sweet, I am smart, I am witty, and I am sexy. And it is this belief that gives me the confidence to put myself out there and continue searching for the one that will love me for me, as I will him. The enigma is finding that one.
Point being, if you want to change something about yourself that will make YOU happy, then do it. If you are doing it for someone else, you'll NEVER be happy, because there'll always be something they want to change. Be happy with yourself first and the rest will follow. Eventually.

[m0by]

Breezy, you just gave ME confiedence. :]
And I hope it reflects upon you, Clifton.

[Clifton]

lol, had stopped taking my anti deps for a couple days, then when i was talking to that female that shit kindof set me off, im ok now though haha

[Illusional]

it's really ironic how you're asking everyone what they think is ugly of you, and under your picture you state that you swear you should start modeling, make up your mind dammit, that is the first thing that girls will find unattractive. raverboy

[tooxshort]

all ur friends are out of state? and the only ones in ur state are girls? damn ... get out n mingle dude ..

[Clifton]

nah, dude friends=trouble. not trying to hafto **** anyone up cause theyre stupid. i just wanto stay outof trouble heh

[squirrley]

Thats the smartest thing youve said...