sexuality vs. beauty

[Kromat]

You know you can easily recognise whether a guy would be awkward or confident in the bedroom? It's exactly the same thing.

What is this talk about the bedroom? all I want sometimes is just to dance, and get a look as If I want something more, and all I want is about 3-5 minutes of her time is it that hard to ask?

Because I'm asking someone to dance, I look awkward and not confident? she should be glad that I chose her, and as I like to say... " her lose, and someone else's gain "

P.S. sometimes it's hard to talk to someone in a club, so it's better to just dance first and then talk after.

[glow]

when i said sexy or asked the question i meant nothing about wearing revealing clothing, nor did i mean anything about necessarily having huge boobs, or any for that matter either,
ALSO
that's absolute bull that people who dress in revealing ways have a low self esteem, some days i throw on a sweatsuit and other days i throw on a mini dress and heels because i wear anything and everything, that has nothing to do with an insecurity about one's appearance.

[vaneigem]

What is this talk about the bedroom? all I want sometimes is just to dance, and get a look as If I want something more, and all I want is about 3-5 minutes of her time is it that hard to ask?

Because I'm asking someone to dance, I look awkward and not confident? she should be glad that I chose her, and as I like to say... " her lose, and someone else's gain "

P.S. sometimes it's hard to talk to someone in a club, so it's better to just dance first and then talk after.

I was just saying that what makes a girl seem sexual is similar to what makes a guy seem sexual, wasn't saying anything about you.

[Aeradalia]

ALSO
that's absolute bull that people who dress in revealing ways have a low self esteem, some days i throw on a sweatsuit and other days i throw on a mini dress and heels because i wear anything and everything, that has nothing to do with an insecurity about one's appearance.

For quite a few women... it does. Is this a guarantee of insecurities... well no, but it can sometimes be a good indicator, especially if there are other signs included (such as excessive sluttiness... lack of boundaries).

[glow]

but you can absolutely not make that blanket statement, all my friends dress in the same realm as i do, the girls that is haha, and i can guarantee these girls are not insecure about their appearance. NOR do they look trashy when they dress these ways, there's a different between wearing little clothing and looking trashy that a lot of people don't realize, it's like there's classy lingerie pictures and then there's girls wearing more clothes like the wife in married with children

[lesa]

....but isn't trashy and classy subjective terms?

I need photos.

[Aeradalia]

....but isn't trashy and classy subjective terms?

I need photos.

Yep... need photos!

[glow]

the first is minimal but classy
i'd say the second link is just pure trash

[url]http://fashionista.com/images/scarlett-johansson.jpg[/url]
[url]http://regmedia.co.uk/2005/05/24/paris_hilton.jpg[/url]

[lesa]

But doesn't it also depend on the environment? That swimsuit to a pool party sponsored by a religious organization would be trashy and the same for the bra & opened shirt outfit. If the swimsuit was worn at a "sexy swimwear" beach party then it may be okay. Walking outside in your "t-shirt & panties" may also be seen as trashy.

It also depends on the model. Reverse outifts and tell me what do you feel.

[IndiReloaded]

Hell, if I could get away with wearing that black job, I would too.

[ecojeanne]

this is a bullshit thread, show us what you look like, we'll tell you honestly if you look trashy

and like lesa said it depends on the environment,

both outfits are trashy if in the environment of strangers imo

[Mish]

I'd rather be called sexy than beautiful

[glow]

i was talking about the outfits not the models, yes i know that does come into play.

[lesa]

i was talking about the outfits not the models, yes i know that does come into play.

but you can absolutely not make that blanket statement, all my friends dress in the same realm as i do, the girls that is haha, and i can guarantee these girls are not insecure about their appearance. NOR do they look trashy when they dress these ways, there's a different between wearing little clothing and looking trashy that a lot of people don't realize, it's like there's classy lingerie pictures and then there's girls wearing more clothes like the wife in married with children

That's what I'm saying.

How do you know if your friends are wearing something that appears trashy or not to others? Isn't it in the eye of the beholder and also the person wearing the outfit...just like beautiful and sexy, huh?

[vashti]

I actually don't think girls dress overly-provocatively because they are insecure about their appearance, but rather they are insecure about their personalities, and slutty clothing is used to distract...