I dumped him yet I feel abandoned

[Only-virgins]

he refuses to grow up,

Maybe he has some medical condition. Don't make fun of short people!. Seriously, I have been told to grow up and even to this day I have no idea what that means. Alot of girls tell their guy "you need to grow up" but what they are really saying is "you dont make enough money like all the adults your age".

[Apache]

If I were you, I would take a break from male/female realationships altogether, and start working yourself. Until you are compeltely happy with who YOU are, you will never be happy with somebody else. Until then, they will only complicate, not compliment.

I totally agree...but shall add this.

Sometimes finding the one you love is all it takes to find yourself. Perhaps
this is the reason you've been so frustrated with him. He seems to have fallen short of being who you really want.

Its hard to look at the years you've spent with him, wanting things
to work out. Sometimes we start to accept things based on this...
becoming tolerant of what we do not normally care for because of the time spent.

Take some time off...do things for yourself to make you happy.
And let life happen...the best things come to us when we least expect them.
When we stop trying to control everything, the pieces fall perfectly where they belong.

[fear_21]

i dont understand why did u get together at all is he is all that negatively. U wrote u knew him 3 years before u2 went together, u had been lovers before and so on. I preety much think u knew him very good before. So next time i suggest you rather keep guys as a friend if their not "perfect" like everygirl thinks shes going to find, cause there are no perfect guys bye