Gf Got a Tattoo--I hate it

[vashti]

Well, give it some time then. You'll get used to the graffiti on her back.

[Draconis]

See her for who she is...not what she looks like. You may not like tattoos but she apparently does. Don't make her think that her getting a tattoo makes you unattracted to her at all anymore...and your actions may eventually do that.
I have 3 tats and a boyfriend at one point told me that he liked them but he just wasnt used to them on me yet. But it's my body and tattoos, if tasteful, are an artform to me and many others. But I can understand your preferences but remember what made you like her to begin with. It probably wasnt just because she DIDN'T have tattoos.
You will get past it in time. But I think you should ask her if she plans on getting anymore...because they can be VERY addicting. And if she does then you should ask your self if you can handle it.

[Ellynn]

Honestly...a tattoo is not a big deal... But then again its your personal preference to what you can tolerate... I have one....and I stopped at one for a reason... It was painful to get, and expensive...and even though I like mine....I find it unattractive to have like tons of them...

You only have known her a few months.... And I can tell its getting to the point where the newness is wearing off and you are honestly getting to know her...

Now its up to you to decide what you will and will not tolerate from her as your gf... But , keep in mind it is her body and her choice.

[King Zarathu]

Ewww tattoos! More specifically, tattoos on women! ****ing gross.

Now, when I think about her not caring about your opinion..meh, I wouldn't be too sure about that from my perspective. See, what comes to mind is back when I was so insecure about everything I thought my girlfriend didn't care about anything I said/did or me for that matter, but I was very wrong. On the inside, I knew, but I just had to be an asshole about everything to make myself feel better. Sex ****s you up if you can't handle it.

Which leads me other questions:
1) How old are both of you?
2) Are you ****ing?

[TAVS]

That's funny.
I was dating this girl for 4+ years when one day she declared she needed some space. During that time; she got a rather large tatoo of a fairie on her calf. I was trying to be as nice as I could; I desparately wanted her back; but I hated it so much. Oh well; we never got back together so I dont have to deal with it.

My GF now has some chinese stuff on her thigh; no big deal.

[Holliper]

See her for who she is...not what she looks like. You may not like tattoos but she apparently does. Don't make her think that her getting a tattoo makes you unattracted to her at all anymore...and your actions may eventually do that.
I have 3 tats and a boyfriend at one point told me that he liked them but he just wasnt used to them on me yet. But it's my body and tattoos, if tasteful, are an artform to me and many others. But I can understand your preferences but remember what made you like her to begin with. It probably wasnt just because she DIDN'T have tattoos.
You will get past it in time. But I think you should ask her if she plans on getting anymore...because they can be VERY addicting. And if she does then you should ask your self if you can handle it.

Very good advice. Thank you. I know I will get past it in time, I just knew that it was going to be a bit rough at first. She's a wonderful person and in the end this tattoo will have no affect on my overall perception of who she is. It's just to me, a tattoo is a big change appearance-wise. It's almost like someone getting plastic surgery to me or something. I love natural human skin, but I can get used to the tattoo. She already said that she isn't planning on getting anymore. So I hope that that is the entire truth. I understand that at the moment she says she is not getting any more....hopefully her mind won't change.

Ewww tattoos! More specifically, tattoos on women! ****ing gross.

Now, when I think about her not caring about your opinion..meh, I wouldn't be too sure about that from my perspective. See, what comes to mind is back when I was so insecure about everything I thought my girlfriend didn't care about anything I said/did or me for that matter, but I was very wrong. On the inside, I knew, but I just had to be an asshole about everything to make myself feel better. Sex ****s you up if you can't handle it.

Which leads me other questions:
1) How old are both of you?
2) Are you ****ing?

1) I am 24, she is 21.
2) Yes, for about 3 weeks. But not that often really....I see her about 4 times a week, we probably have sex maybe 2-4 times a week. Although this week that number will be low because of this stuff lol. It's ok though. I felt bad though because she was over last night after she the tattoo, and I was upset and keeping it in. She kept trying to give me affection but i couldnt return it because i was just upset. We talked about it a bit today, which sparked an argument....but it wasn't a fight. Just discussion, cause I had to get it off my chest.

I'm not worried that sex is getting in the way anymore. When we first started, I thought that it was beginning to. But I was able to take a step back and not count on that. Although I imagine the make up sex after all this is gonna be pretty fantastic lol.



All in all i think we really just need to discuss it some more just to get all feelings of mine out of the way, so I can just begin the process of getting used to the tattoo. She's getting off work here in a half hour, so she's supposed to call. Eh not really looking forward to this convo but gotta get it out of the way.

Thanks everyone for your input and advice. I appreciate it.