What are the best qualities in a lover? (Straight girls answer please)

[asdfg789]

I'm wondering what occupation has to do with sexual performance? LOL.

Well, I suppose I've always had a thing for firefighters. Sadly, I've only ever gotten to admire them from afar.. my best memory is the one emerging from a residence building elevator in full kit holding a fireaxe (someone had left a pot on a stove in their apartment). He had to duck to get out of the elevator and looked so very serious, lol. I couldn't think straight. It was like seeing a god.

why haven't you bought your husband a fireman's kit by now ? you can have your fantasy in your bedroom every night ! (:

[jcorntassel]

Its not just men. Women too now b/c of our high-powered jobs. Look up the stats: we women are matching the men in terms of stress and cardiovascular disease. Speaking of which, I'm outta here.

Im sorry but I detect a hint of frustration, don't get me wrong I have no sexist aims in this thread. I just want to see if there is a common link between the occupations
of good lovers women may have had.

[Bonkers2012]

Sumpreme Confidence
Coolness about ones self.
Knowing what you want and going for it no fumbling around!
Ability to talk dirty and say what you want and follow through
Any job that involves being very intelligent and a GSOH nothing more sexy than a brainy man with a sense of humour!
Diet, don't know about that one, but something that involves being healthy without being too anal like 'I only eat specific food groups' or wont' drink at all etc.
Exercise, someone that likes exercise without being obsessive about it is sexy indeed. Being healthy without it being an obsession
GSOH is sexy in the bedroom..""Word from Top Office honey You are going to get ****ed right now, get yourself on that bed right now"" Said in the right tone..WOW.
I've been with more than 20 people
I am very attractive and even though it sounds it on this page I am not full of myself in any way, though I know I could have any man I'd choose as
I look good, I am a Marilyn Monroe body type, that gives you a clear idea of my shape anyway.
I'm up for a laugh
I have a great sense of humour
I'm a messer TBH.

Oh yeah, a guy that likes to like 'smell' your perfume and really breathe in the smell of you around your neck..wow.

lol, there you are all my very own opinions.

hope it helps a bit.

[IndiReloaded]

Im sorry but I detect a hint of frustration, don't get me wrong I have no sexist aims in this thread. I just want to see if there is a common link between the occupations
of good lovers women may have had.

If had it to do again, I would choose a guy in an occupation he didn't bring home (i.e. non-white collar). Its too exhausting dealing with guys who overthink but understand little. I can see the old-fashion attraction of trophy wives.

[jcorntassel]

Thanks ladies these have been some great responses so far, but just to clarify I am not so much looking for what women THINK is their ideal guy. I am more interested at this
point in objective observations about a particularly good lover in your life.
Eg. "He used to eat mainly fish and salad, and had fast food for about one meal per week." or "He worked at an accounting firm".

I am trying to collect historical and observational data rather than opinion, regardless of whether you think the particular quality impacted his performance as a lover or not.

Keep the responses coming! Thanks heaps for taking the time to read and respond, it is much appreciated!

*just a note, is there some way I can attach this reply to the first post?

[searock]

You can edit your opening post.

Anyway, my boyfriend has all the qualities I listed in my first post on this thread. He is in healthy shape and eats normally (no particular diet).

[Bonkers2012]

My opinions above are not fantasy or what I THINK in any way those things actually happened are from my best lover!

He ate fast food though not all the time, he looked after himself without being obsessive, he managed a sports club and has a degree and studying a masters degree and wanted to work in education. He drinks alcohol though only a few drinks in a week. He has a fantastic sense of humour and comes out with all kinds of crazy crap and you'd wonder, how did he think that one up.
He loves films and music and could tell you lots about these things. He is not much to look at though has a fantastic personality that would take your breath away, with the way he talks and his confidence in himself is really second to none. All that is very very attractive. He's easy to talk to. Actually CONFIDENCE is key.

[Wakeup]

Bonkers: You idolize a cheating man who, at every opportunity exercises his option of many low esteemed women who, like you idolize him. How do you expect to ever get over this man, a man who used you and uses other women while he has a steady life-partner at home.

He may be a good lover but that is all he is. You have nothing else of substance with this man so do yourself a favor so that you can get on with your life. Take the ball-freak down off the pedestal you have him on and start looking at him more logically rather through those rose coloured glasses you have on.

I will agree with you that confidence is attractive. However: it's quite ugly when you have a man with entitlement and narcissistic issues. Which if you are talking about the same man here as in your Online Affair thread he apparently has.

[smackie9]

Does that work though? Because I know with guys, once they cum they lose their sex drive pretty quickly,
so would it be the same with girls or are they good to go straight after?

Do you not know anything about women?

[smackie9]

I like a guy that can enjoy porn and beer as much as I do.

[haxan]

2 things: I like how smackie has funneled her opportunity to find the right guy for optimal success, and firefighters are over-rated.

[smackie9]

Well there is one more thing....they have to be a car guy. Other than that short, fat skinny or tall I love them all! lol.

[CAM]

There's loads of data on this, just do a search. High-paying jobs = increased sex, drinking, hard exercise. Basically anything that relieves stress.

...it is true. The higher my salary goes, the more I want to slip between the sheets and...sleep. Sex drive has always been high, regardless of wage rate and stress level. Now, I would like to sleep, have a housekeeper to take care of the house...already have the yard maintenance. I need a vacation.

[jcorntassel]

Do you not know anything about women?

I'd say I know a bit, but yeah haven't exactly porked any

[jcorntassel]

...it is true. The higher my salary goes, the more I want to slip between the sheets and...sleep. Sex drive has always been high, regardless of wage rate and stress level. Now, I would like to sleep, have a housekeeper to take care of the house...already have the yard maintenance. I need a vacation.

cheers for the responses but this isn't really relevant