SURVEY: Who's gotten back with thier X???

[abercromqt20]

i totally agree. a break up usually is confirmation of do i want to move forward with this person or should i just let it go. or atleast it can be alot of times. sometimes it's a good thing to remove yourself from the situation and sit back before you make a decision.

[Quan]

I haven't got back together with any of my ex's. My latest and I are just now cutting off everything (broke up in november) and I am moving on. I am the one who is cutting her off, she still wants to talk to me every day and tell me the problems she has with the guy she left me for....

I feel we are supposed to be together.. I have never felt something so strongly before in my entire life.. but whether or not that will happen is yet to be seen. I will probably wait a month or two and if she doesn't come to me I will give her one day of contact to see if she is happy and doing well. If she is, then good for her and i wish her the best.... but I AM GONE BABY!!!!!

[schueys_girl]

basically, an ex is an ex for a reason, unless you are both prepared to learn from the mistakes that split you up in the first place and move on. Some mistakes or habits cannot be broken however, and people end up back in the same place they were before.

If it comes down to an actual person having to change (laziness, bad with giving affection etc) then this is very hard because i really believe actual people cannot change. If it is habits and attitudes then people can work on these to resolve problems.

An example would be me and my boyfriend. We split because i became incredibly clingy and needy, totally depending on him for my happiness, which never works. he basically had no life. When we got back together 5 months later i was my own person and had figured how to make myself happy, and therefore we are both able to enjoy time apart with friends etc, and thoughraly enjoy the time we spend together. And because we both missed each other when we were apart (we had absolutely no contact for the whole 5 months) we now wouldnt jepordise that again, and are aware what we need to do to make it work

[nfgfan]

How about getting back with an ex, that says they have fallen out of love with you... has anyone gotten back with an ex in that type of situation?

[toto]

Not me, but my ex has just got in contact with me after 4 months. I think this is a crucial time with a break up as things being to settle down and you can really survey your new situation.

I have a thread called 'Quick advice' as I’m a bit confused about what this means but i have a new girlfriend and things are going great so I don’t want to get back out with her! I think that is the best situation to be in....when someone breaks up with you and then wants you back but you have moved on. Still I think you always have feelings for someone you loved and look back fondly.

But If i wasnt in my current situation, who knows. I have the idea that if someone breaks it off with you, you should never go back because what you had is changed forever. But in reality its not as easy as that!