Fetish's (whats normal, what isnt?)

[alexandraboo]

. He should reciprocate and be with YOU intimately, rather than a mother figure all the time.

Certainly, you can help him out occasionally and do that for him, but not all the time.

I agree completely, I dont role play back every time we make love, though I know he thinks about it in his head anyways.

[Mathias]

I dont know if this would help make the situation a little clearer, but the videos he watches and watched are called mommy afton, if you google them they come up.

I'm pretty happy that detail DOESN'T make this clearer for me.

[surfhb]

Yes.....they are called Mommy Videos but they arent fetish videos of mothers having sex with their sons LOL! They are just older women having sex with younger men. I love girls who have no idea of internet porn world LOL

A mommy fetish is just that.... one imagining having sex with your mother. IMAGINING having sex with someone whos NOT your mother but is older is not the same. The guys normal....does he **** older women? Does he **** his mother? Does he love you? Is he a good guy? Jeesh relax already

[alexandraboo]

Yes.....they are called Mommy Videos but they arent fetish videos of mothers having sex with their sons LOL! They are just older women having sex with younger men. I love girls who have no idea of internet porn world LOL

A mommy fetish is just that.... one imagining having sex with your mother. IMAGINING having sex with someone whos NOT your mother but is older is not the same. The guys normal....does he **** older women? Does he **** his mother? Does he love you? Is he a good guy? Jeesh relax already

I know this, he does imagine the woman he is looking at his his mother though. Not just an older lady. But yes, you think this is normal?

[surfhb]

Hmmmm....are you sure hes thinking of his mother? His mother has a certain voice, face. the way she acts, ect. So youre saying he sees all this in a completely different person? Thats impossible. If not, then hes not dreaming of his mother but some other person. Yes its normal because thats what turns him on. Whats not normal is that its effecting your relationship.

[alexandraboo]

Hmmmm....are you sure hes thinking of his mother? His mother has a certain voice, face. the way she acts, ect. So youre saying he sees all this in a completely different person? Thats impossible. If not, then hes not dreaming of his mother but some other person. Yes its normal because thats what turns him on. Whats not normal is that its effecting your relationship.

He makes up a fake fantasy in his head ASIDE from his own mother, that this other woman is his mother, but not like to mimic is actual mother, do you get it? like in some other reality this woman he is seeing is his mother, BUT not his REAL birth mother. And it was affecting our relationship, until he explained to me his porn usage was because he cant help his fetish. I have more understanding now. He looked at me with tears in his eyes and honestly told me, I cant help the way I feel, I cant help it, its implanted in me. I really dont think he is lying about it.

[surfhb]

Thats so sad. I dont think its a big deal.....but if its affecting your relationship you both need to get outside help.

We all have secrets but never let them known unless the other persons onboard. You wouldnt believe some of the crazy shit people are into....yet live normal lives...maybe that will help him?

I mean.....foot fetishes? or shoes? Whats up with that? A foot turns you on? Now thats weird LOL

[alexandraboo]

Thats so sad. I dont think its a big deal.....but if its affecting your relationship you both need to get outside help.

We all have secrets but never let them known unless the other persons onboard

I am not sure, he wont seek outside help, I respect his decision. I may go for counselling or a self esteem course or something, this has really taken a toll on me.

[Wakeup]

I know this, he does imagine the woman he is looking at his his mother though. Not just an older lady. But yes, you think this is normal?

Freud would have a field day with your bf. OP Google "Oedipus complex"

I don't know anything about this type of fetish but the first thing that came to my mind is that he was sexually abused by his mother (sorry for the thought). Personally I'd not be sexually attracted to him knowing that he was making love to me and thinking about his mother while doing it.

[alexandraboo]

Freud would have a field day with your bf.

Whys that :O sigmund freud

[Wakeup]

Whys that :O sigmund freud

Yes.. (Note that I added to that post, op) google Oedipus complex because I think that's what your boyfriend might be "sufferiing" from. I say "suffering" because he feels guilty and you are suffering during sex because he fantasizes that you're his mother. When there is "suffering" then it's not normal. so: You either learn to adapt and accept or you both see a councelor to change things is my suggestion.

[surfhb]

Freud would have a field day with your bf. OP Google "Oedipus complex"

I don't know anything about this type of fetish but the first thing that came to my mind is that he was sexually abused by his mother (sorry for the thought). Personally I'd not be sexually attracted to him knowing that he was making love to me and thinking about his mother while doing it.

Agreed! to all the guys out there with Oedipus complex? You might want to keep that secret away from your GF or Wife

[Wakeup]

Agreed! to all the guys out there with Oedipus complex? You might want to keep that secret away from your GF or Wife

I agree. That is something I'd not want to know about my guy if he was so inclined. Fantasy is about whats in your own mind as far as I'm concerned. Just because you're a couple it certainly doesn't mean you have to share every single thing (particularily it doesn't mean you have to share all your your thoughts and everythng that swirls around in your head). Role play is one thing but if he actually longs to be with someone older (even his own mother) then you as his spouse will be unable to cater to his actual kink.

I wonder why he didn't pick a milf to be his gf instead of a young woman like yourself, Op?

[surfhb]

Also other things to keep in mind here:

Freud is often considered a fraud in modern physiology. Also his issues are not sexually based. What youre seeing is a byproduct of something much larger. Do those things affect your relationship?

Somethings missing from this case.....theres a piece of the puzzle your not telling or aware of IMO

[Wakeup]

Also other things to keep in mind here:

Freud is often considered a fraud in modern physiology. Also his issues are not sexually based. What youre seeing is a byproduct of something much larger. Do those things affect your relationship?

Forget about Freud... I'm just saying he'd have a field day interviewing this guy.

Of course they affect her relationship.. that's why she's here.