I know. I've done it also. Theres been times where I felt I wasnt getting enough attention from a boyfriend and not enough time and I found myself talking to someone else, so I know. I'm not saying its right but if people like the OP showed their love and support and was emotionally available, then her hubby wouldnt feel the need to talk with this other woman. So I guess I can understand on both ends. His and hers. More so his because she admitted to not doing her part.