Read a bit of Eastern philosophy (e.g., Taoism) or take aikido The West uses confrontational approaches in everything...act into Nature; guys practically using battlefield strategy to get a girl's blouse off; politics of attack; etc. etc.
Eastern philosophy is often non-confrontational, takes less energy...focus on inner strength. Do things that way, you will accomplish the most amazing things...sexually and otherwise.
My girlfriend was/is always very reluctant to open up to me sexually.
The first time I unhooked her bra, her jaw dropped, and she stopped to fix it.
The second time I unhooked her bra, she gave me that "you're ridiculous look", and I took that as cue to fix it.
The third time I unhooked her bra, she paused mid-kiss, but I held it together with one hand and flipped her onto her back so I could let go and still keep it on. It wasn't until maybe 5 minutes later that I slid one shoulder strap down...then let it be...then another couple minutes before I slid the other down.
Mid-kiss while lying on top of her, I pulled the bra completely off but stayed pressed up against her so she wouldn't have time to think about it. I never so much as glanced or touched those beauties (with my hands) until after we took a breather.
I figured, if she went for her bra or shirt at the "pause", then it would be a no-go.
She didn't.
(Mind you, this was over the course of several months and separate visits, so it was a mix of patience and persistence.)
Last edited by Junket; 08-08-07 at 03:57 AM.
Sheesh, CAM, It HAS been a long time, hasn't it?
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A long time...well, in geological time, it has been just milliseconds.
In human time, it has been almost 6 years. Self imposed, since I would prefer to actually "Do it, but this time with some emotional feeling." Conceivably, I could return to the olde days of playing the overly religious girl or go after the town cougars or somesuch...but I know that very quickly, I'd be right back to the meaningless sex. Not necessarily a bad thing...but there's got to be something better.
Who knows. I may have met "something better"--the "coffee woman"...she's text msg a lot these days even though she's on a business trip. We'll have to see.
But yeah, it has been a long(ish) time
meaningless sex is a nice fantasy. kinda like threesomes.
baby ya hustle. but me i hustle harder.
Fantasy....now why do the "LA Gear" ads from the 1980s run through my head after reading that?
Sing along: "LA ! LA Gear! It's not just a fantasy!"
Remember those?
Meaningless sex. Good stuff during college. There's nothing quite like sitting down in the college bar with a bunch of women from your graduating class and knowing that at one time or another...you had all of them.
But meaningless sex has a bad influence...when you find that you can't take an argument very seriously because the "mouth" that is arguing with you was giving you head the night before....at that point, meaningless sex has a socially negative effect...a person can become a little self-absorbed nihilist.
A threesome? Mis, I always thought that you'd be enough woman for any man Why he'd want more, heaven only knows.