Should I tell his wife?

[Perryville]

As I said before, it's a judgement call. If the MM tried to get this OP in the sack, then she has the right to spill the beans on him, to his wife.

[MissAnn]

Luckily, I was not intimate with the husband, he was "nice" enough to tell me he was married on our second date.

I am still not sure what to do.....ugh! I have been cheated on before. I wasn't married to the guy but we were in a commited relationship. I would have wanted someone to tell me. On the other hand, she may not believe me, or she may know already, or they could really be in an open relationship and my bringing it up would just make her uncomfortable.

The project I am working on with her will be over soon, so one thing in favor of me brining it up is that I won't be working with her anymore.

[vashti]

You can bet that if you tell her, you won't be working with her any more in the future.

[qwertz]

Trust me, they have children. She wont want to know, especially as the fact you didnt actually do anything intimate.

Think about her, rather than yourself, there is absolutely no need for you to mention it, especiallly as you wont be working with her for much longer.

[Perryville]

Sorry to all who disagree, but the truth is ALWAYS better, than lying.

[vashti]

Not always.

[Perryville]

Yes, always. If you had ever been cheated on, you might think different.

[vashti]

lol, what makes you think I haven't been? Of course I have.

[Petit Papillon]

... Recently I was in her office, and noticed a picture on her desk. It was her, her husband, their dog, and two adorable kids. The husband was...you guessed it-dog park guy...

this can happen just in america lol

[Perryville]

Then I don't understand your thinking , at all. Trust is one of the hardest parts of a relationship to build, it is never a given. To betray it or to advocate betraying it says more about your issues, than it does about the OP's. If this man is allowed to get away with cheating, (putting his wife at risk, and showing massive lack of respect) how is that a good thing?

[vashti]

Then I don't understand your thinking , at all. Trust is one of the hardest parts of a relationship to build, it is never a given. To betray it or to advocate betraying it says more about your issues, than it does about the OP's. If this man is allowed to get away with cheating, (putting his wife at risk, and showing massive lack of respect) how is that a good thing?

I do not advocate betraying anyone, nor did I say it was a good thing he is doing.

[Perryville]

To conceal dishonesty, is to aid it.

[vashti]

Really? Do you report your friends who cheat on their taxes to the IRS?

I think we just disagree as to the value of the OP telling the wife.

[Perryville]

Maybe so, Vash. I would hope , that the wife is wise to him, and the necessity doesn't arise.

[Gigabitch]

I would want to know.