I don't know how to break up with girlfriend

[Love-advisor]

Why should you break up with her when you love her so much and you know that she will be hurt by it as well.So better sit and explain to her your issues.Take your time but dont breakup.Good relations dont occur frequently.

[Chazza2k]

Hey ghost,

I can see you have thought about this a lot and posting on this forum indicates you are desperate to find a way of telling her you want out. I'm affraid theres no easy way to breakup you just have to be honest and tell her that's what you want, be nice to the point, that you don't want this future and want to explore and have fun and then leave. There will be tears, hurt and pain, she will probably throw everything at you (that's what hurt does) in the end though when you leave and don't respond to her (when she calls or txts)she will get the message. If you must respond just tell her that you have made the decision and nothing she will say will change that, it wont be easy but when thats done its done.

The other option of course is to stay in a relationship you do not want, seem to be fed up of and eventually will start resenting her for making you stay in? Way up the pro's and cons and decide what's better for you.

Goodluck. Hope you make the right choice for you.

[seganomics]

"Dearest, I must leave you. Why, I cannot say. Where, you cannot know. How I will get there, I haven't decided yet. But one thing I can tell you, any time I hear the wind blow it will whisper your name. And so let us part with a love that will echo through the ages."

No one quotes the Simpsons anymore... this was refreshing.

Ghost, as someone who has always been on the broken end of the break up I can tell you the best you can do for her is break it off clean.

Anytime "love", "just friends", and "on a break" is invovled (in my cases anyhow)... it made the break up so much more agonizing in the end and it caused that healing process to be soon drawn out.

And maybe you'll get back together... but it doesn't happen through dwindling in and out of an expired relationship. It happens when each of you discover each other as indiviual entities.

Breaking it off with no contact may seem cruel and it will hurt both of you, but things will be so much brighter on the end of that tunnel when the time comes.

Good Luck