Boyfriend Wants to Quit

[vashti]

My nephew just came back from Iraq yesterday (he's a marine). He was bored silly. I don't know where your BF is stationed, but things aren't bad all over. You know him better than anyone else - does he tend to have extremely poor coping skills?

[lesa]

My nephew just came back from Iraq yesterday (he's a marine). He was bored silly. I don't know where your BF is stationed, but things aren't bad all over.

I speak with my friend daily and he said the media hype up a lot of things that are going on right now. There are some bad area but it's not all over. It's not Afghanistan.

[Aeradalia]

Lesa... I just have too much on my plate as it is... I rarely have an 'outlet' for that other than directing that energy to solving the problem. My attention span is ridiculously long... then my ambition follows suit as well. I'm one of those that 'can't let it go' when I have my mind set to something.

Yes, it would be best for him to hold out the remaining few weeks --- that was my first thought. However, I have to take into account the psychological affects as well. How is he holding up? Would a few more weeks be a drop in the bucket or would they be the straw that breaks the camel's back? I'm missing vital information here --- I didn't have enough time to listen to what he had to say -- to get inside his head and see for myself how this is really affecting him.

I tend to portray him rather poorly here... he usually keeps most of his problems to himself. Often I have to coax such things out of him. For him to say something about it directly gives more significance to the situation - this was important enough to him to want to mention it. Either it really is more than he can handle... or... which is more likely, he needs an objective view on the decision to quit or stay. Someone to help tip the balance for him... more or less.

When/If I can get in touch with him again... I will try to see how he is holding up.

Yes, it would be best for him to fulfill his obligations --- he won't breach the contract and suffer those consequences, he wouldn't be returning home to nothing, and if he stays, that gives me time to stabilize my Mom's situation and send her down the road. Ultimately we want a life together... and unexpected problems aside --- we were both working towards that.

However, if he is in danger physically/mentally... then I cannot expect him to remain. I cannot send him to his death --- whether that means via a bullet or a lifetime in a psychiatric ward.

Luckily my brother and I have a very good relationship. He has helped to provide a few methods to find solutions to my problems much sooner.

It helps to have objective views on the situation.. then I can be better prepared for the next time we talk. From what I can gather... he didn't sound like he was going to quit that day... so there may still be time.

[IndiReloaded]

You need more info, Dalia. Right now you are just grasping at possibilities.

Worry about what you can change. Leave the rest to fall where it wills for now.

[doppelgaenger]

My friends back home are being deployed in a few days...

To Kuwait.

[Cain]

you've outgrown numbing yourself with alcohol and drugs?

psh, not me. those very things are numbing my anger for the irs right at this very moment.

You're angry with everything.

You're just a big ol' firecracker.

You need to get laid.

My penis volunteers.

[IndiReloaded]

I thought you had two girls in the wings, Cain. What happened?

Or just looking to make it three?

[Cain]

I thought you had two girls in the wings, Cain. What happened?

Or just looking to make it three?

Heh.

And those two girls are gone now.

But they were replaced by another.

I've seen more action since my ex and I broke up last August than I had in my entire life.

I'm enjoying it.

[misombra]

cain is a mutha fukin playyyyaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa!

[misombra]

cain gets around like 2pac.

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[Cain]

cain is a mutha fukin playyyyaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa!

Still waiting to feel you from the inside!

[misombra]

stand in line baby.

[Cain]

stand in line baby.

I could still reach you from the back of the line.

That's me tapping on your shoulder, baby.

[Gigabitch]

Aera, he's just freaking out. It's understandable. Tell him you are working to get the homefront stabilized and that it's actually more of a war zone than Iraq right now with your mama drama and all.

I know how he feels, like if he could just come home and rest his head on your shoulder, everything would be fine. It's probably momentary, and he's very likely already decided to tough it out.

I feel for you both.

[Aeradalia]

Aera, he's just freaking out. It's understandable. Tell him you are working to get the homefront stabilized and that it's actually more of a war zone than Iraq right now with your mama drama and all.

I know how he feels, like if he could just come home and rest his head on your shoulder, everything would be fine. It's probably momentary, and he's very likely already decided to tough it out.

I feel for you both.

Giga.. the voice of reason... yeah, it makes sense... I sent him an email telling him to more or less 'hang in there' and 'do his ****ing job' ... but in a nice way

Got the situation with my Mom squared away... I, with about 5 others at my Mom's work dropped some money to pay for my Stepdad's ticket back to the states... he got his citizenship in the works more or less... so he'll be coming back on Thursday (4/23/09)... and they'll be staying with me for one month... as I cannot have this many occupants living with me for very long (not that I want to.. ).

I got a car while I was visiting my Dad from an old friend... so no more bus (and fair-weather friends) for me.. yay! It's a nice sporty car... but easy on the gas.. fits me rather well. Just need to put in an ad for another roommate as soon as I can... then my life will be smooth sailing again.

It's been difficult recovering from the divorce (aren't vindictive ex's fun?) and all else... but alas... I think I see a light at the end of the tunnel.... finally.

Oh btw... I'm back in Dallas... can't you tell? Oh how I love this city.. .... and technology...