I can understand that, and that sounds a lot like our situation although I'm not seeing anyone else right now I just don't want to be tied down at the moment. He's a lovely guy and we all have faults but he'd do my head in with telling me what to do. As I said I think he's compromising and just taking what he can get I can already see he's going to hurt a lot when I end it and that was before NYE but at my age and knowing that he's not the one I want to stay with I have to move on before it gets anymore painful for him