Originally Posted by
straight&56
However I believe I have not violated my spouse's privacy. I am taking great care to remain unidentifiable in my posts here. In the strictest sense maybe that still constitutes a violation but surely that must happen a lot in a forum like this with people seeking help otherwise difficult situations would remain unresolved.
There's no doubt my wife would feel humiliated if she or I were identifiable and she knew of my posts.
I wasn't actually referring to your posts on this forum. I was referring to the fact that you consider her your "confidante". Your posts clearly indicate she knows more about your life than your own wife does. You state that you "need" her, that you'd be "devastated" to see her go. You have obviously crossed the line of what is considered appropriate.
You wrote, "If my wife had a confidante who had her interests at heart and was able to make a difference in our marriage by being able to talk about and help resolve things that we may find difficult then I would see that as a positive force in our marriage."
This to me looks like justification for a highly improper emotional attachment on your part. Somehow I seriously doubt your wife would see this younger woman as a "positive force" in your marriage, especially given your level of attachment to her.
Relax... I'll need some information first. Just the basic facts - can you show me where it hurts?