why play the games?

[hermes3]

Good point Amz...Just goes to show the divers types of people and relations. Btw...what do you plan on doing with that syringe?

[hermes3]

Ya i've been in that type of relationship soulsurvivor23. Got tired of rowing alone. So i threw her out of the boat.

[soulsurvivor23]

Ya i've been in that type of relationship soulsurvivor23. Got tired of rowing alone. So i threw her out of the boat.

LMAO

[Mish]

Life is too short for all these games I think.

Life itself is a game

You are the physical representation of your genome and your purpose in life (according to biology) is to reproduce. Though reproduce not with just about anyone, but only with the set of genes which are most desirable for people in your immediate circle of influence (this is concerning culture, looks, financial situation). If life is not an ultimate representation of a game with us as players, then I don't know what is.


As far as exs go, it almost always doesn't work out for a reason. There are no games to play, just let it go.

[amz]

I hope u gave her a life preserver or was she a ancor type hehe

[lesa]

You also have to be compatible but ultimately this situation is about attraction and acceptance. If she doesn't express love verbally and he does, the couple will have to accept that behavior or leave. Don't expect them to change how they express themselves. And don't expect them to "fake" attraction.

Remember that you can only control yourself.

When you finally accept their behavior that is when they usually feel more comfortable with you rather than pull apart. Just imagine a behavior you don't care to do and then imagine someone expecting you to express yourself in the way that you are not accustomed. Imagine they keep expecting it every day. Over time do you think you would draw closer (increase attraction) to them or pull apart (decrease attraction)? If they would back off with their expectation, do you think you would draw closer to them or continue to pull apart? Again, you can only control yourself but some people try to manipulate others.

[soulsurvivor23]

You're very right about that Lesa. Good point.

[lesa]

The only thing is not everyone wants or needs to have a 50/50 relationship. Some people like being dominant/submissive. this is in there genes and they are happy and this is normal if u find the other person that is ok with this. this is not abnormal and phychology proves there are as many types of personalities as there are people. the hard part is finding one that fits.

Then their dominant or submissive relationship will still have to be somewhat balanced as close to 50/50 as possible. Now that doesn't mean she is 50% dominate and 50% submissive. It means that she or he is as balanced to their definition of a balanced relationship.

For example: If the woman wants a dominate man and he is not giving her that dominate behavior as close to her magical definition of dominate the relationship may have problems because she does not feel it is balanced (50/50). It is similar for a man who wants a woman who is submissive. If she is 10% submissive and 90% dominate and he wants a woman who is 80% submissive and 20% dominate as close as possible then she will not produce his definition of a balanced (50/50) relationship. She is only 10% submissive when he wanted a woman as close to 80% as possible to satisfy his imaginary definition of a balanced relationship for him. You can either produce harmony or leave.

And then there are some traits that have nothing to do with 50/50. It’s just toxic and most people would not desire it.