Boyfriend Not Passionate Enough- Need a Male Perspective

[xxazurexx]

Some guys are raised to believe that showing emotions is a weak or feminine quality. I know, it's ridiculous, but they grow up to be stoic and out-of-touch with their feelings. When the self-control cracks and the feelings emerge, it can be scary.

So, that's saying that a man can have feelings for the woman in his life, but he won't tell her?

I've yet to meet this man who won't and doesn't show feelings.

[Incognito]

For the most part is is taught that being in touch with one's emotions is "womanly", and that is often equated to weakness. Some men conform to this way of thinking, others do not. I personally do not. People are people no matter what gender. Humans have emotions and need to express them in one way or another at one time or another. I think it is truly sad when men believe and go along with the notion that they have no emotions or that they shouldn't express them.. THAT is real weakness, compliance to a societal stereotype to appear "normal".

[xxazurexx]

^^ I could never be with a guy who played 'hard man' all the time, who didn't show or communicate feeling.

Like I said, I've only ever been in serious relationship with guys who had no problem showing feelings and without any prompting, or forcework from me. These guys would even cry. To see a guy cry, is one of the most touching things.

[Incognito]

When I was in high school I asked many girls what they thought of a man crying (not over something trivial, but something really moving or painful). Most said that they'd lose all respect for him as a man and would never consider tham as relationship worthy. One girl went on to say that if her boyfriend ever cried for anything that she'd vomit and leave him for a "real" man. Like I said this is a notion that is thrown upon males from all sides, not just other males. Here in th US it is normal for women to complain about their men not expressing their feelings. Some men do so in private, but won't even hug, kiss, or hold hands in public because of the fear of being viewed as feminine (and therefore weak). I don't agree with the notion at all.

[LailaK]

Some men talk about their feelings and are passionate. Some men aren't. Accept your boyfriend for who he is and if you can't, get a new boyfriend.

[lahnnabell]

When I was in high school I asked many girls what they thought of a man crying (not over something trivial, but something really moving or painful). Most said that they'd lose all respect for him as a man and would never consider tham as relationship worthy. One girl went on to say that if her boyfriend ever cried for anything that she'd vomit and leave him for a "real" man. Like I said this is a notion that is thrown upon males from all sides, not just other males. Here in th US it is normal for women to complain about their men not expressing their feelings. Some men do so in private, but won't even hug, kiss, or hold hands in public because of the fear of being viewed as feminine (and therefore weak). I don't agree with the notion at all.

How terrible that they would get rid of a guy for having a working range of emotions... Yuck. While I've never seen my boyfriend cry, I've seen him become deeply upset by things. And I've seen how concerned he becomes during serious conversations. That shows me that what I'm saying is important to him. I've had guys do the whole manly, emotional shut down thing and it's incredibly frustrating to deal with.

On the flip side, I'm not one to incessantly ask my boyfriend, "What are you thinking/feeling?" Maybe during an emotional moment of some kind, but if we're watching a baseball game together and the Sox are behind, I'm pretty sure I know what he's feeling. If you find that your guy isn't showing a deeper level of affection for you than you'd like, then you need to bring it up. Perhaps he isn't over the hurt this other chick caused him. Then that's unfair to you. You deserve to be with someone who can give you their own 100%, not just some leftover emotions.

[rosenesponda]

Hello Dear ,

so sad your Boyfriend not Passionate Enough you , i think you can suggest Viagra or anything else.