Judge my relationship

[tooxshort]

i think the relationship can survive given the circumstances ... in third world countries, marriages seem to be more lifelong than here because the way of life is a lot different ... and although the marriages last forever, they're not always happy throughout ... but it goes to show how important "first world countries" see marriage as ...

even though, i do believe they're a bit young to get married ... but its better than the marriage being arranged at 16 ... at least they "love" each other now ... but i believe your mentality will change as you mature and age ...

[shh!]

Your replies only serve to confirm the validity of my initial post.

I don't understand your rationale for posting this. Clearly you have made up your mind, so why do you feel the need to ask what others think? It seems kind of arrogant to say, "what do you think, even though your opinion is irrelevant, because I know more than you". This is really very characteristic of someone far too young to be married, but good luck anyway.

[Confused2005]

"In terms of getting married - We want a long engagement but we want to be engaged. Is that so bad? - Maybe when we move home we can get married, who knows."

No its not bad at all.....its a very wise and sensible thing to do.

I understand that you want to show the world how you feel for one another.

I would simply advise you to just give it another few years before you actually get married.

Grow together a little bit first.

Best of luck.

[BDRAS]

Shh - My main motive for posting my story on here is to get feedback from people other than my friends and family. All of my friends and family judged my relationship very very harshly and I was interested to know what people who dont know me, think of it. In terms of old enough to get married, I think I'm old enough to get married, It might seem hard to beleive but at 21, i have experienced a lot and feel ready to commit. What defines when someone is ready to get married? Is it only thier physical age? I would suggest how this person feels about commitment is more important, and the relationship this person is in, most important.

We dont go back home for another 2 years, there is plenty of time to grow together etc.

I have ordered the enagement ring, its going to cost around US$2400 and its custom made to my design. Its a 4mm wide gold ring with 10 x 2.7mm belgium diamonds spaced evenly all the way around and imbedded inside the gold. I have also designed the wedding ring to match the engagement ring. It will be white gold with a couple of large rocks and few small rocks. It will fit together with the engagement ring. Its hard to describe. Anyway the wedding ring should be about US$7500. The cost is irrelevent, I came up with a design and asked them to make it. I cant wait to see the result.

Anybody else want to judge my relationship - I'm finding the results of the poll very interested, especially when I compare them to the general negative attitude in the thread.