I'd love an erotic online romance with a woman

[Justinfirelake]

Most guys these days just wants to get in the chicks pant and then be done with it.

You see this is why i hate Male too.
even I am one I have to say it.

[Zekk_T_Strife]

"Not I," says the pig. Sex is really the furthest thing from my mind at this point. I'm just going into college and looking for a meaningful relationship that will last. But I don't believe that any guy who frequently visits this forum is a typical male. A typical male wouldn't have the dedication to return more than a few times and even then you could tell by his shallow posts.

[Justinfirelake]

Hehe I know what you mean.

[yamman11]

Anybody who is saying this guy isn't happily married is being ridiculus. I know plenty of married guys who masterbate, its just like porn, its hardly a connection with another human being. I say its allowed and its a good way to harness your sexual energy, rather then take it out in other ways that could result in cheating

[Killerbabe]

This is a ridicule. I know that if a guy really likes a girl he doesn't enjoy jerking off too much, specially thinking of tricks while does it. As to porn, it is psychologically considered mentally ratrded. No kidding, people who like porn are a little insecure and sublimely unhappy with something, that's why they watch porn. It helps them relieve stress from insecurity. A man who truly loves his wife will consider even fantasizing of other tricks mental cheating.

[Zekk_T_Strife]

I hate to agree with a mindless moron like yamman but I'm afraid you're wrong here Killer. EVERY guy jerks off, the only ones who don't are those who physically can't. Even when a guy is completely in love with a girl he WILL still do it. He may not tell you that he does it but he does. Your boyfriend does. I don't even have to know him. Good luck getting him to admit it though. As for porn, it's just a window to do it. Watching it or using it to jerk off doesn't make a person shallow or retarded or insecure. It means he's horny and needs something to turn him on while he takes care of his personal business. But I do think yamman is an idiot if he thinks saying this guy isn't happily married is stupid. He's obviously not, he's not talking about masturbating, he's talking about cheating. Did you forget that little piece of his post?

[Killerbabe]

No offence, I like your track of thought, but I've attended several lectures by this professor (psychologist) who was talking about porn (not masturbation, which I think is fine). Well, he explained why porn's so tempting for men. It's not just a theory of his, it's a fact of life. However there are different cases and situations.

I know my boyfriend jerks off, he does admit it. But I also know that he's not looking for any other means to satisfy himself.

[Zekk_T_Strife]

And I'm not saying that porn replaces anything. It's one thing for a guy to watch porn while he gets himself off. It's quite another for a guy to accumulate boxes upon boxes of stuff and become a recluse pervert memorizing the names of every porn star in existance. I think there's definately a thick line there and those two things shouldn't be lumped together. Porn watchers aren't all necessarily weak minded or insecure people, but hermitized smut-hounds definately have some kind of psychological malfunction going on.

[ViSionS]

Ya wanna hear something ironic? You are all correct. Excessuve pornograpy can be destructive. It can be an addiction. So can excessive masturbation. But, neither pornography or masturbation are the problem. It's easy to blame the phenom of addiction on what one is addicted to, for example it's easy to blame the problem of methamphetamine addiction on the amount of methamphetamine being pushed through any given area. The fact is, methamphetamine doesn't hurt anyone. It's the person who uses the methamphetamine that actually does the hurting because if they didn't use it they probably would behave differently. Then along comes addiction, an actual disease of the mind and spirit that causes a person to lose control over their use of the methamphetamine. So, we realy can't blame the addict either since they have no control over the situation. We can and should however hold them responsible for their actions, because one thing an addict does have control over is making a decision to get help. So it's not realy the drugs, or the porn or the masturbation that is the problem, in fact they are all a healthy part of our lives. You all can deny it all you want, but unless you are a die hard mormon or some religious reason prevents you from masturbation, and even then I doubt that anyone manages to never do it, everyone does it, I mean everyone guy's and girls both. Even if you don't at this point in your life, I am willing to bet the farm that you have in the past. It is normal, natural, healthy. If you do it in excess, just like anything else, that's a different story. If you chose to abstain from it, that's ok too, it's your choice. As for pornography, yeah if you sit in your livingroom for 8 hours a day, and just can't get enough of it, then sure, you have a problem. I for one enjoy every once in a while curling up with my girlfriend and watch 20 or so minutes of a flick. (that's usualy the longest we can keep our hands off of each other) I'd say we do that no more than once a month, and it is never a planned thing, it just happens. I can't see how using something responsibly could be considered unhealthy. Another thing I don't think is being taken into consideration here is the vast difference between when a mans sexual peak starts and when a womans starts. Now I don't know how old any of you are realy, but I made a post asking what the average age range for the regulars is on this board and the reply was 18-22 or so. Men start to hit their sexual peak at the age of 18-20 sometimes younger. Women begin around 26-30. Now that I am 28 years old, and have watched all the women in my life that are around my age, turn into "sex crazed lunatics" I have a good understanding of what they were going through when I was 18. I know for a fact that I masturbate about 1/10 of what I did when I was 18, and I get sexual urges about half as much as I did then. My girlfriend, and all of my female friends seem to have a sex drive more than twice of what I had when I was 18. Go figure. Sure, masturbation is probably a very occasional thing for young women around the age of 18, but give it a few years, and I think you will find you will be wanting sex a lot more than is possible/convenient. I guess I'm lucky that my girlfriend and I are as open with each other as we are, it makes it a lot easier not having to hide anything from the other. There are times when I'm just not in the mood to have sex, so she will tell me she is locking herself in the bedroom for 20 minutes or so, and I just leave her alone, and vice versa. bah, I'm rambling again, anyway, that's all I realy have to say on that, or at least that's all I can think of atm. I guess the best analogy would be the old trite saying "Guns don't kill people, people kill people." or however it goes.
Peac, love, and Hippyness,
ViSionS

[Zekk_T_Strife]

I'll be the first to say your posts are always super duper long.

[ViSionS]

Am I making them too long? Like I said I try to be as thorough as possible, so people understand what I'm trying to say. I can definately shorten them up if it is bothering anyone.



ViSionS

[Zekk_T_Strife]

A lot of times I don't have the patience to read them all. I'll just read them until you state your general point then skip the examples you give. It's not a bother I just can't focus on one entry for too long or I get distracted.