There is really no "settling" when 2 people love each other. Lots of single guys find divorced women attractive, especially if the woman has her act together and is absolutely wonderful.
I am a divorced asian man (35) with 2 small kids. I would NEVER date a young woman in her 20s who has never been married. She would be too inexperienced in all aspects of life.
My ideal would be a divorced woman, around my age, with kids around my kids' age. After my divorce I was seriously not looking for love or relationship, but I was hoping
that when the right woman came along, she would fit my needs. And suddenly, there she was, as if someone were creating her just for me. Interestingly,
she had the SAME requirements, and she wasn't even looking for love or relationship either. We just met and that was it....she's the perfect white woman for me.