dating and hooking up sequence

[ginastar]

its been a week since then so do u think hes not interested anymore?

[Boisdevie]

If I was interested in a girl I'd text her the next day. Waiting a week does not sound good.

[ginastar]

no a week since hanging out, still texting everyday.
but i found out i think its a reapperance of an ex gf

[LailaK]

I don't kiss until date 4... unless the guy is F*CKING HOT.

[Applesauce]

LailaK says:

"I don't kiss until date 4... unless the guy is F*CKING HOT."

lol, how's that working out for you?

[LailaK]

I'm single. But I'll take that over feeling like a whore or getting herpes of the mouth.

Theres nothing wrong with wanting to know and like a guy before I give him goodies. I'll have to wait longer but I'm ok with that.

[Applesauce]

LailaK says:

"I'm single. But I'll take that over feeling like a whore or getting herpes of the mouth."

you're more likely to get into a car accident than getting herpes from kissing a guy on the 2nd date. Are you going to start wearing a helmet and pads every time you drive? I don't know what's more ridiculous: you feeling like a whore for kissing before the 4th date or being paranoid you will catch herpes by kissing before the 4th date, lol

"Theres nothing wrong with wanting to know and like a guy before I give him goodies. I'll have to wait longer but I'm ok with that."

oh trust me, you kissing a guy isn't giving him the "goodies" - not if you're dating men instead of boys. It's probably b/c of your mentality that you're still single

[LailaK]

Whatever you say Applesauce

[Take2]

I actually kind of agree with applesauce. A kiss should come when the connection is strong enough for a kiss. For me, if the connection isn't strong enough for a kiss after 2 dates, there is probably no reason to waste our time with a third. If the connection was there but there was some logistical issue, then waiting wouldn't be a problem.

It's the same with every other step in the progression of physical intimacy. It should happen when the emotional intimacy/connection is sufficient for that level of physical intimacy, and if the intimacy doesn't progress then the relationship is a non-starter.

[ginastar]

but doesnt hooking up bring you closer emotionally also?

[girl68]

but doesnt hooking up bring you closer emotionally also?

For you, yes. For him- NO a big fat NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO

[LailaK]

^^^ What she said.

Never assume a guy works the same way you do. They don't.

Sex does not affect men the way that it affects women. Blame biology.

[ginastar]

true true. so u think thats why we dont really talk anymore? he was texting me since then, but it kinda faded out.
i wonder if i play it cool he will eventually wanna talk again ?

[LailaK]

I kinda of think that if a guy is interested he won't just blow you off.

Think of it this way, you deserve a guy who really likes you and who lets you know that he likes you.

[Rupiruu]

damn! if only i'd known that sooner lol