Feminist Bullcrap

[Kiechi]

I agree. Women here WANT their partners last name.

[oneandonly]

hmmm, I've never thought about this before but I'd love to keep my name. It seems just plain weird for me to forgo my inherited surname?! I am not a feminist by any means.

It doesn't give me any right to question my friends' decision though as it's theirs to make.

[vashti]

I don't consider this a feminist issue. This is an individual issue. Some people care about the name they were born with, and others don't. But is IS popular sport to villainize the entire feminist movement.

[Junket]

You should carry around a few big dildos and stuff it in their mouthes the next time they bring it up.

[misombra]

if i got married i would keep my last name, or use both. i'm proud of my heritage, wouldn't want to forget or be lost. but that's just me. i wouldn't give anyone shit if they wanted to change theirs.

[xxazurexx]

I think why it could be percieved to be 'feminism', is because it is women who are choosing to go against what has been the 'norm' in society for centuries upon centuries, particularly in the UK, where it is just expected that we take the partners surname and women did. It was something that was more or less forced upon us and nobody ever questioned it and nobody over here appears to be questioning, 'Should I take my own name or my husbands name'.

I know of not one couple, whereby the woman kept her own name. People with 'double barrel' surnames (the mans and the womans) are common in those who are of Royalty or the aristocracy. The 'commoners' like me, do not have 'double barrel' surnames.

I wasn't even aware that we had a choice, as to the surname we took. I thought it was just an automatic thing that we took the mans surname. Now I know I have a choice, I'd probably prefer a 'double barrel' surname - but I'd also still have no problem in taking the mans alone.

[vashti]

I know a lot of established professionals who choose to keep their own name, or hyphenate. When you work hard to establish a professional reputation, particularly one that involves some name recognition, I think you take the idea of changing your name a bit more seriously.

I myself DID change my name, but that wasn't for the sake of tradition. It's just a better last name. If I divorced my husband or remarried, I would keep it. It's a pain in the ass to change all your legal documents. lol

[Petit Papillon]

I talked to my bf about and if someday we would get married, I would keep two names. I want to keep the polish part of me but at the same point, I want to be a part of my future's husband family. I'm also proud of my heritage and I don't want people to forget that I'm originally from Poland . I want them to remember it everytime they read my name

[doppelgaenger]

Oh, so if you changed your name, you'd forget your maiden name? Pfft.

[bluesummer]

But is IS popular sport to villainize the entire feminist movement.

I'm not trying to villanize the feminist movement, although I do have an especial dislike for the bra-burning man-hating types out there. I wouldn't consider it a feminist issue if people didn't tie feminist ways of thinking to it, like my friends are doing.

I believe in proving a woman's worth by proving yourself. I work in the banking sector, which gets increasingly less female populated the higher up the ladder you go. There are some of us working our asses off to force our way into the old boy's club. I don't do it by running around saying how unfair it is that men have the higher positions. I just put my head down and get myself there through hard work. Feminists are whiners, and don't do anything to solve their own issues except hold rallies and write books about how much men suck.

I love men, and respect them. Well, most of them My current last name means nothing to me, and like Indi said, changing it makes for a more cohesive family unit when we have kids. I can respect people just having a tie to their maiden name. But when they start talking about it like it's my man trying to "take away my identity" and show possession over me, I draw the line. That IS feminist bullcrap.

[Petit Papillon]

Oh, so if you changed your name, you'd forget your maiden name? Pfft.

Eee no, we both agreed it would be better if I kept my name and took his - so i would have two.

Actually, if i married a polish guy and stayed in poland , i wouldn't give a flying crap about my name,because for me it's something normal that woman changes her name after she marries, i want to keep my polish name because i plan to live abroad. and hell, i love when people don't know how to spell my name correct so i'm going to have that fun till the rest of my life! i do,because i want to >:O
Plus, I don't want my kids to have different name than i do - that's why i would take my husband's name as well

PS. unless we divorce of course, then i will sort of have no choice

[vashti]

I'm a feminist, and I LOVE men. I think some people don't really understand what feminism is. It advocates political, economic, and social equality for women. What it ISN'T is what a few conservatives like to advocate, which is a bunch of whining, complaining, nagging women. Every movement has its extremists, but they shouldn't be used to discount the progress made by an entire movement, nor should the movement be linked to every weird, rude friend we have.

As for the bra burning, read this: [url=http://www.snopes.com/history/american/burnbra.asp]snopes.com: Feminist Bra Burning[/url]

[SirWagginston]

I only want to keep my last name because it's bad ass. Seriously, look at all the nicknames people have made for me from it: Wagnasty, SirWagginston, The Wagginator, Waggernaught... I will adopt a woman's last name if and only if it happens to be cooler.

[Petit Papillon]

I only want to keep my last name because it's bad ass. Seriously, look at all the nicknames people have made for me from it: Wagnasty, SirWagginston, The Wagginator, Waggernaught... I will adopt a woman's last name if and only if it happens to be cooler.

I never told you that... ummm. In polish "Vagina" is written and called "wagina" and... I was automatically reading your name Sir Wagin(ston) , well, you were Sir Wagina to me Hope you're not insulted, I kinda was about to tell you long time ago

[dewilliams2]

I never told you that... ummm. In polish "Vagina" is written and called "wagina" and... I was automatically reading your name Sir Wagin(ston) , well, you were Sir Wagina to me Hope you're not insulted, I kinda was about to tell you long time ago

Honestly I think that is bad ass....he will from this day forth b known to me as Sir Vagina!...wear this name proudly my friend.