i can't jack-off

[IndiReloaded]

I'm with Carl on this. Get a vibrator. If you don't want to go into a shop, there are online sites that will mail you discreetly.

I personally like this site:

[url]http://www.holisticwisdom.com/[/url]

They only recommend high quality & the reviews are honest.

[Aeradalia]

I didn't even think of a vibrator... probably because I don't use one. But that could definitely do the trick...

[IndiReloaded]

I think we need a new 'Sex Toy' thread. Giga, Lite, Indig will have loads to recommend, I think. I feel like a puritan compared to them.

[starbuck]

Two words: The rabbit. It's the ferrari of vibrators.

Glow, what are you thinking about while you masturbate? If you're just thinking about getting the job done, then no wonder your body's not responding. Have you tried getting a good fantasy going while you're wanking?

Also, to those who think women don't like porn. I think we all know that, while it may not be for every woman, there are some of us that do like enjoy some porn. I don't see much of a difference between watching porn and fantasizing...my mind just does less work while the porn's on.

EDIT: Don't some drugs, like anti-depressants and BCPs also decrease the likelihood of orgasm? Any med people know?

[LadieNisha4u2nv]

I forgot the name of the one I have, but it got rabbit ears. Mmm...Whoever invented rabbit ears is a GENIUS!

I believe the OP just isnt being imaginative. When I watch a porno, I start to imagine it being me in it with whomever there, or at least imagine doing stuff like that with my bf. You gotta use your imagination, it'll get you far.

[doppelgaenger]

It sounds to me like she needs a real cock inside her. Where's DM?

[Lite]

There are a good number of women who have a lot of trouble finding their own touch to be "good" when it comes to masturbating. Some never quite get it, some take a while until they have a breakthrough. Pretty much you have some sort of mental cock-block keeping you from just letting god and enjoying yourself.

Perhaps you should try it when drunk and you're not able to worry so much in a coherent manner?

Or, I suppose a toy could work. Rabbits are very popular, but for your first toy they could be quite intimidating since you're already showing hangup issues (not a judgement or bad thing, just observation) about being intimate with yourself. You might start simpler with a pocket rocket or something specifically more phallic shaped (some of the rabbit style toys can be uh, creative in their looks...). As I've suggested before if you need help shopping you might try babeland.com as they tend to be more woman centric in their approach. Which removes a lot of the negative connotations with buying toys at the local 'porn' shop.

[Lite]

EDIT: Don't some drugs, like anti-depressants and BCPs also decrease the likelihood of orgasm? Any med people know?

Yes, many anti-depressants have such side effects, especially SSRI's. When I was on effexor I couldn't get off in under 2 hours. Which, not only did that pose problems w/ actual sex (couldn't finish), but I was actually getting upset about not being able to get off myself alone in a reasonable amount of time.

[glow]

no no no,
i'm NOT talking about them being present, i just have to be seeing someone, then i can jack off alone, but when i'm single i can't, i'm not aroused by anything whatsoever and i've tried a plethora of things.

[Lite]

Right, you're imagining them during that period. Otherwise you're feeling a bit empty during the act.

[carl1222]

It could be more of a mental or physical problem.

The only thing I can recommend would be to go to a doctor and ask about it, they may be able to help you out with that.

Hahahaha. I'm sorry ... but now I can't get the image of a team of doctors helping glow masturbate out of my mind.

Carl.

[Aeradalia]

Hahahaha. I'm sorry ... but now I can't get the image of a team of doctors helping glow masturbate out of my mind.

Carl.

Dammit Carl... thanks for putting that image in my mind... another piece of useless erotica to clutter my thoughts for the next few days.

[vashti]

I'm not sure why this is a problem, to be honest, assuming you have an otherwise satisfactory sex life.

[sophie0028]

try watching some hardcore porn

[Only-virgins]

Makes no sense.