...this is just my perspective on the situation...
Watching porn is the small sliver of happiness I am allowed on a daily basis
I can understand why it bothers you. But understand it's completely normal, I have yet to find a fellow male who hasn't watched porn. As long as it's not overtaking his life to the point where he expects that every women he meets to look and perform like them it's completely fine. As for what he said, he was dumb for saying something like that. There's nothing wrong with a little porn here and there, but that's one of the things that need to be kept to himself. I'm not saying that he should lie to you if you ask him if he watches porn, but he shouldn't bring it up.
You also did overreact a bit, you shouldn't have gotten mad because he looked at porn before. I think you should discuss what happened with him and tell him that it bothered you, but it really isn't a big deal.
Communication is the key to a good relationship, keeping things bottled up will only blow up on you later on.
i have evidence to back you up. a friend of mine divorced her husband because he didn't have sex with her for more than 2 years.
it wasn't until after the divorce that he admitted that he had a porn addiction and that was the reason for his celibacy.
the girl tried everything, even testosterone injections...
baby ya hustle. but me i hustle harder.
I wouldnt get upset about it. I think a shitload of men watch porn to some extent and dont exactly tell their women they do. But I dont find it offensive anymore. I use to watch it with my old flame it was great. My hubby and I dont watch it, no biggy. But we love Nip Tuck and thats a form of Porn.
I also think its important for women to be secure within themselves if their man is watching now and again, who cares. But obviously if it effects your daily living and your relationship then theres a problem.
I wouldnt care if my man watched it. I know at our age, he knows its a form of entertainment and its a fantasy. Its like what are the odds of ****ing Brad Pitt?
Shoot it doesnt even bother me if my hubby is taking care of himself, I dont find it offensive and Im sure there are times where its happened because of my surgeries or sickness. I think alot of it has to do with your own securities.
everything happens for a reason...beginning to wonder why.
I actually worry about the young guys who are growing up watching hardcore porn from their early teens or even younger. It's a f-cking awful introduction to sex. I worry that it might corrupt the development of their sexuality and their attitudes to women in general. I mean in most porn the women are treated worse than dogs.
And it must take away all the wonderful mystique around women and sex when you're that age. When I was 12-13 we'd all start frothing uncontrollably if we saw a pair of boobs on tv, and I think that's the way it should be.
Men can grow up thinking that the vagina is made of gold, that is what should happen right? The first time they have sex the biggest feeling of disappointment ever. There is nothing wrong with watching a little porn, a lot of porn, and no porn. It is just porn, thats it. Nothing more and nothing less. At least even when the guy has sex for the first time he will know how to find th clit and entrance rather than sit there dumbfounded still "frothing" over boobs. It also shows how to have some great sex in many cases...don't tell me you people **** in the dark in missionary style every night? how freaking lame and boring would that be.
Last edited by Only-virgins; 18-02-08 at 02:42 AM.
"Why are you an atheist?"
"because I paid attention in science class."
i don't know. i think you can abuse anything with excess, including porn.
baby ya hustle. but me i hustle harder.
If it gets in the way of your life and the success than maybe it can be labeled as harmful in that situation as an addiction. Other than that if you have the time to kill, knock yourself out.
That is the best thing you can say? It was pretty easy to understand so if you found that incoherent than that is odd. It also made twice as much sense as your rambling nonsense so I can see why you are agitated.
Last edited by Only-virgins; 18-02-08 at 02:48 AM.
"Why are you an atheist?"
"because I paid attention in science class."
OV, I am not a large purveyor of porn, but I have never see a video that directs a male to the clitoris, nor do they tell you what to do with it if you happen to stumble across it. Porn is not written with a woman's pleasure in mind, at least not that I've seen. It's all about male fantasy. And BTW - lots of women LOVE the missionary position.
Relax... I'll need some information first. Just the basic facts - can you show me where it hurts?
Really? how much different do you have sex? It doesn't get much different. They don't point to the clit exactly but I think any normal person after watching porn can figure it out. There is plenty of porn videos just about sucking on the clit. Missionary position is ok once in a while but that is about it. Otherwise it gets boring.
"Why are you an atheist?"
"because I paid attention in science class."