would you forgive a cheater?

[qwertz]

He was/is, i 'let him in 'and get close to me, things have been fantastic and amazing..until this point. I just dont understand why- he loathes his ex after what she did to him..or at least i thought he did.

[Gigabitch]

He was/is, i 'let him in 'and get close to me, things have been fantastic and amazing..until this point. I just dont understand why- he loathes his ex after what she did to him..or at least i thought he did.

Maybe he and his dick haven't come to a consensus on that.

[vashti]

Get rid of him now, before you have much of an emotional investment. I know you were friends before - maybe you should just chalk this up to an indiscretion on both your parts - a lapse of judgement between two friends who were never meant to be.

[misombra]

fuking disgusting.

[QueenofCorona]

I couldn't forgive or forget so it would never work out. I'd have to bail.

C'mon, Qwert. You know you deserve better than that. He's showing you his true colors, believe him the first time.

[xxazurexx]

I have forgiven a cheater, but a cheater I was married too and so there was a lot of time invested, plus a child.
While I chose to forgive and try hard to forget, I couldn't and I'd throw it up in his face time and time again.
He repaid me for forgiving him, by cheating on me again and four years after the initial cheating.
If only I'd had the sense to get and when he first did it, I could have avoided a lot of hurt.

It would appear that you havn't a lot of time invested in this guy and for that reason I'd get shot of him and before you become further emotionally involved.

[misombra]

i'm sorry qwerty. hopefully this doesn't make you even more cold.

it's sad that this is how you find out whether or not he's really your friend.

[misombra]

i had a guy once do something similar. we hadn't slept together or anything we were just starting to kinda date. he called me up one day and said he slept with this slutty lady that a lot of my friends knew. he acted like he was some hero who deserved praise because he told me and he was so honest.

piece of shit idiot.

[SirWagginston]

No, never. There is no excuse for cheating. Not even drunken/drug fueled lapses in judgment. I've gotten wasted off my ass, ridiculously baked, and both at the same time, and I didn't cheat.

[misombra]

just wait until perryville finds out about this.

[lahnnabell]

I'd never try to forgive a cheater again. I've gone down that road. It's long and painful and pointless. People who cheat have some fundamental need for attention. More often than not these people put themselves in compromising positions (i.e. hanging out with exes, excessive flirting, getting absolutely wasted beyond recognition, etc.) None of those are reasons, just excuses, and lame ones at that. I've been completely out of my head smashed and regardless have never done anything I wouldn't do sober.

I agree with Giga that it coincides with lying and I loathe lying. Even lying by omission gives me cause to kick some ass. I told my boyfriend this fact early on too.

While I don't believe in "once a cheater, always a cheater", I personally could never get beyond the betrayal. It looms like a dark cloud over the entire relationship after it comes out, ruining every romantic feeling or thought you ever had about your loved one.

[cmacattack1]

No, never. There is no excuse for cheating. Not even drunken/drug fueled lapses in judgment. I've gotten wasted off my ass, ridiculously baked, and both at the same time, and I didn't cheat.

Same here. Even so, they are reasons, but never excuses. There are no excuses and there shouldn't ever be. I've hid behind them my whole life and it's just running from the truth, which is something you kind of need to make things work.

Sorry to hear things were so shitty for you. Unfortunately when some get what they want (i.e. you), all the good behavior is off. I think we all talk about how shitty our exes are but it looks like his actions spoke his true feelings.

[Illusional]

oh brother... more dramas in your life??

raverboy

[vashti]

Did you two actually have a formal exclusivity agreement?

[Perryville]

Goddamnit, Qwert, this is a really sucky thing to happen. I warned you about this guy, but I never thought he would cheat so early. Considering your background, I think you had best get away from him as fast as your sexy little ass can carry you. You are too nice a woman , to have to accept something like this. Dump him, and find a real man.