James this is NOT in any shape or form a game for me to win or lose as it appears it may be to some. I give you my opinion and that is all. If your gf posted in here I would say the same thing to her that it all comes down to being considerate of feelings, yours for you and for her and hers for herslef and you too. Then each making a decision on the information given when you communicate your issues to her and her to you, that is all I am saying. Take care of you, I wish you well xx