why are people turned of by people with mental; health problems?????

[gollom555]

thank you. getting help of people who are going thru similiar things is always good. thank you for your stories. im not a fan of tablets. im taking 2 different types of medication and its 2 tablets in morning and 2 at night. i hope i can be referred for cbt as i have heard good things about it. thank you. x.
keep the messages coming guys. i want to help spread and get rid of the stigma about people with mental health problems.
xx

[Only-virgins]

Yes, we should all date crazy people to show how productive and not ignorant we are. I'm not putting up with emotional baggage because I don't have to and you know why? A relationship is not something you deal with and work with. The point of one is to make you happy. If I'm not happy in one I am out of that relationship, doesn't need to be more complicated then that. Depression and anxiety everyone has, seriously...some just more then others. Since no one mentioned at first what kind of mental health problem for all I know we can be speaking of borderline ape shit crazy.

[gollom555]

that is quite rude. im not crazy yet i have mental health problems. this is an example of the stigme people with mental health problems have to cope with. yes the point of a relationship is to make you happy but as i have said alot of people with mental health problems are normal and maybe more caring the most people.

[Only-virgins]

that is quite rude. im not crazy yet i have mental health problems. this is an example of the stigme people with mental health problems have to cope with. yes the point of a relationship is to make you happy but as i have said alot of people with mental health problems are normal and maybe more caring the most people.

Are you trying to start a pity band wagon here like the last guy? I don't care that you have issues and you think they are a disorder. You think everyone around you doesn't get depressed from time to time and has anxiety during certain occasions? Psychologists/shrinks do a hell of a job making you people think that you are somehow "special" that is for sure. Someone on here put down people who wouldn't date those with mental disorders yet women don't date a man simply cause his cock is to small? really? talk about a bad order of priorities. Everyone is a hypocrite these days I swear. I get into relationships personally in order to INCREASE my happiness, if it doesn't do that the relationship is pointless...I might as well be single. Wait till the day you start dating and ignoring women because maybe one has ears that look funny or another one because she dresses poorly..in my opinion mental health is far more important then any other issue.

[gollom555]

yes it is but im not saying im special in anyway and have not put that. im just tryin to raise awareness and get advice. i know everyone in some part of their lives willl suffer from anxiety or depression or both. i have been to many of doctors and specialists trying to get help. mental health is not something to joke with and im trying to help get rid of a stigma that covers it. i would just hope i can do a little to help it. i have been in relatioships and broke up cos they found out i had problems. i know how it feels. i like to be in relationships for exactly the same reason, but because i am labbelled with mental health problems people avoid me like the plague. sorry about jumpin at u but am having a bit of a down moment. sorry my friend.

[sparkle_jello]

I would not have a relationship with someone who had mental problems. For one thing, I have a child. There is not telling how this could affect her, really. Even if it's something like depression... not going to deal with it. I don't want to be someone's cheerleader. You may not be able to tell from being friends with someone that they have mental ailments, but if you are in a relationship with someone... it's going to creep into the situation eventually. I would rather be with a person that has a physical ailment than a mental one. Also, mental illnesses are often hereditary, so I wouldn't want to have a child with the increased chances of this.

This is not saying I have anything against people with mental illnesses, I just really don't want to deal with it.

[Only-virgins]

yes it is but im not saying im special in anyway and have not put that. im just tryin to raise awareness and get advice. i know everyone in some part of their lives willl suffer from anxiety or depression or both. i have been to many of doctors and specialists trying to get help. mental health is not something to joke with and im trying to help get rid of a stigma that covers it. i would just hope i can do a little to help it. i have been in relatioships and broke up cos they found out i had problems. i know how it feels. i like to be in relationships for exactly the same reason, but because i am labbelled with mental health problems people avoid me like the plague. sorry about jumpin at u but am having a bit of a down moment. sorry my friend.

Why do you tell yourself and others that you have a mental disorder? That won't help you. When you have a "down moment" just take it for what it is, sadness over something. I think professionals are going about healing depression the complete wrong way.

[RdHrshyKss]

that's fine. everyone is entitled to their own choices. no one is making you date someone with depression or anxiety. but i'm pretty certain you will pass along that way of thinking to your child, who will then also discriminate against people with mental health problems and they will pass it along to their children and so forth. i guess the best solution is to just lie. don't tell anyone about your mental health issues and you shouldn't have any problems.

[sparkle_jello]

that's fine. everyone is entitled to their own choices. no one is making you date someone with depression or anxiety. but i'm pretty certain you will pass along that way of thinking to your child, who will then also discriminate against people with mental health problems and they will pass it along to their children and so forth. i guess the best solution is to just lie. don't tell anyone about your mental health issues and you shouldn't have any problems.

How did I say I discriminate? By NOT choosing to date them? I choose not to date women, am I sexist?

[RdHrshyKss]

what would you do if you had a daughter who started dating someone suffering from depression? would you be ok with it? or would you try to convince her to go out and find someone without it? in my opinion, everyone has to deal with some form of depression, there are just some people who are better at ignoring it and not letting it affect them as much as others. so to say you choose not to date people who suffer from depression, even if they have it completely under control, is discriminatory. but again, you have the choice, no one is making you. but since there are a lot of people out there like you, i would suggest that the OP just not tell anyone about it so that he can't be judged prematurely like someone like you probably would.

[sparkle_jello]

what would you do if you had a daughter who started dating someone suffering from depression. would you be ok with it? or would you try to convince her to go out and find someone without it? in my opinion, everyone has to deal with some form of depression, there are just some people who are better at ignoring it and not letting it affect them as much as others.

My daughter is 6, not worried about that yet. And I do not have to deal with depression at all. I know if my daughter's boyfriend had HIV I would try to get her to date someone else, but I don't know what I would say if she said her boyfriend is depressed.

[RdHrshyKss]

My daughter is 6, not worried about that yet. And I do not have to deal with depression at all. I know if my daughter's boyfriend had HIV I would try to get her to date someone else, but I don't know what I would say if she said her boyfriend is depressed.

i would hope that you would say that if he makes her happy and she loves him, him having depression shouldn't mean a damn thing. as for the HIV thing, that's a really touchy subject. i would have to say that people with HIV have a much worse stigma for good reason. not dating someone with depression because you think it might be a problem, even though you aren't really sure it will be, is less logical than not choosing to date someone with HIV for obvious reasons.

and i must note that people may be predisposed to suffering depression worse than others, but i firmly believe that it's the social experiences that one has that makes it become an issue. so just because someone has suffered depression in their life does not mean that their children will. if their children are brought up in a good environment and have good values and confidence instilled in them, i don't see why depression would become a factor.

[Only-virgins]

what would you do if you had a daughter who started dating someone suffering from depression? would you be ok with it? or would you try to convince her to go out and find someone without it? in my opinion, everyone has to deal with some form of depression, there are just some people who are better at ignoring it and not letting it affect them as much as others. so to say you choose not to date people who suffer from depression, even if they have it completely under control, is discriminatory. but again, you have the choice, no one is making you. but since there are a lot of people out there like you, i would suggest that the OP just not tell anyone about it so that he can't be judged prematurely like someone like you probably would.

I thought we are talking about full blown disorders here? Not regular depression.

i would hope that you would say that if he makes her happy and she loves him.

How does someone who is depressed make someone else happy when they can't even be happy themself?

[sparkle_jello]

i would hope that you would say that if he makes her happy and she loves him, him having depression shouldn't mean a damn thing. as for the HIV thing, that's a really touchy subject. i would have to say that people with HIV have a much worse stigma for good reason. not dating someone with depression because you think it might be a problem, even though you aren't really sure it will be, is less logical than not choosing to date someone with HIV for obvious reasons.

and i must note that people may be predisposed to suffering depression worse than others, but i firmly believe that it's the social experiences that one has that makes it become an issue. so just because someone has suffered depression in their life does not mean that their children will. if their children are brought up in a good environment and have good values and confidence instilled in them, i don't see why depression would become a factor.

Seriously, you are taking this WAY too personally. Not all people are the same, that is a good thing. I am one that happens to be very choosy when picking a mate, in all areas. I've known depressed people, and I really just don't want to live with it in my house. I've had depressed friends, in reality they are hard friends to keep because they are always gloom and doom, but I've had them. I'm not going to post politically correct answers to make everyone happy. You haven't done one thing to change my stance.

[RdHrshyKss]

you guys are the one saying that you choose not to date a depressed person. there are so many ranges of depression, to make that statement is just silly. i suffer from bouts of depression but it doesn't make me more abnormal than the next person. everyone has their own differences. and i already told you that no one is going to make you date a depressed person. you are free to do whatever you will. all i suggested was for people like me and the OP and others who have acknowledged their issues should just keep it to themselves so that they won't be prematurely judged by people like you. it's really very simple.