If your partner was lost at sea,like Tom Hanks in that movie, how long would you wait

[Junket]

If she died?

I'd blubber for days.

Probably skip work and start getting drunk and generally partake in self destructive behaviors while contemplating suicide. Which sucks because I know she would hate me if I ever committed suicide. The very idea of it upsets her.

[vashti]

Y'know Vash, (and Indie), I still have a hard time believing you would be so quick to forget.

Who said anything about forgetting? I don't think moving on is a sign of forgetting. Do you think people who lose spouses (or children) to illness forget about them because they move on? the world keeps on turning, you know. People grieve, and then they continue living. Young people just haven't seen the life/death cycle enough to understand this.

[Indignant]

can i be lost at sea with Tom Hanks? or Robert Downey jr? or James Franco? or Chris Evans? or Ewan McGregor?

[IndiReloaded]

I'd be heartbroken, and therefore unavailable for another relationship. God, the very idea is upsetting.

I'd say it would take at least 5-10 years for me to stop expecting him to walk through the door every day. I'd never forget him, though, and probably never quite get over it.

At this stage, I believe you. But you're newlywed, that makes a difference. But give it 5 or so years, you know this. Even the best relationships ppl get sick of each other.

(that's your answer too, Fras^)

[Indignant]

can i be lost at sea with Tom Hanks? or Robert Downey jr? or James Franco? or Chris Evans? or Ewan McGregor?

how about getting lost at sea with all 5 of them? away from all the nasty women....

[mDarkPoet]

Wow that's a deep question, I'd say 2 years, 1 year to give him time to come home and 1 year to grieve. People change a lot in an expanse of time and sometimes, no matter how hard it is, you have to move on. Life is not worth spending alone.

[Aeradalia]

Who said anything about forgetting? I don't think moving on is a sign of forgetting. Do you think people who lose spouses (or children) to illness forget about them because they move on? the world keeps on turning, you know. People grieve, and then they continue living. Young people just haven't seen the life/death cycle enough to understand this.

I have to agree with Vashti... the more death you see, the more friends and family you put in the ground... the quicker you seem to recover. I cried at the first 2 funerals I went to... but by the time I had to attend the 10th funeral... I was sad, but I couldn't cry.

I'd move on if my SO was lost... but I probably wouldn't date or take interest in any romantic involvement. Just focus on moving on... one goal after another until the pain is dull and dismissible.

[Junket]

Who said anything about forgetting? I don't think moving on is a sign of forgetting. Do you think people who lose spouses (or children) to illness forget about them because they move on? the world keeps on turning, you know. People grieve, and then they continue living. Young people just haven't seen the life/death cycle enough to understand this.

I'm very selective with my choice of words and I purposely used the word "forget" because of the way you refer to your husband on this forum, and I was hoping to hit a nerve with it.

Your tone is often very nonchalant to the point I wonder how much you even like this guy. Your initial response made me think of how someone might feel when their cat gets run over.

[Gigabitch]

At this stage, I believe you. But you're newlywed, that makes a difference. But give it 5 or so years, you know this. Even the best relationships ppl get sick of each other.

(that's your answer too, Fras^)

Well, I just wanted that in print in case he ever, you know, goes missing. Like, at sea. Nobody point any fingers at me.

[Junket]

At this stage, I believe you. But you're newlywed, that makes a difference. But give it 5 or so years, you know this. Even the best relationships ppl get sick of each other.

(that's your answer too, Fras^)

But really?

To the point that their loss would be so easy to get over?

I think it may be easier for people who already have children, or a strong family support system.

I have none of these.

[vashti]

I'm very selective with my choice of words and I purposely used the word "forget" because of the way you refer to your husband on this forum, and I was hoping to hit a nerve with it.

Really? Well, you didn't. And to answer your other inquiry, I still think my husband is the nicest, most generous man I have ever known.

[vashti]

But really?

To the point that their loss would be so easy to get over?

I think it may be easier for people who already have children, or a strong family support system.

I have none of these.

How easily people are able to "get over" something (by which I assume you mean "move on") has more to do with their personal strength than the quality of a relationship.

[Junket]

Really? Well, you didn't.

Regardless of whether I struck a nerve or not, I was setting you up to find the answer I was looking for.

[Junket]

How easily people are able to "get over" something (by which I assume you mean "move on") has more to do with their personal strength than the quality of a relationship.

I disagree.

[IndiReloaded]

How easily people are able to "get over" something (by which I assume you mean "move on") has more to do with their personal strength than the quality of a relationship.

Public face, private grief. Yes.