My Boyfriend Is A Total Privacy Invader!!!

[cancankant]

tell him that if he keeps looking at what you're doing, he won't be the one you're buying your sexy outfits for.

And that you'll be slapping him with a restraining order (that I assume would include your computer and all other techonology)!

[Illusional]

I live alone in my flat and so I spend most of my free time surfing the net. Just recently, my too curious IT expert boyfriend was able to install a program to my computer which made all my computer activities accessible to him. Remotely, at any given time he can see/read everything I do in the computer. Otherwise, I use someone else's. I felt so invaded. I tried confronting him but he said why would I be bothered as we don't keep secrets from each other. But, I feel it's just not so right. How can I make him stop it without making him think I want to hide something?

ask him to get a gps system so you can also tract his every moment. it's only fair that if he's expecting this out of you, then he's better be willing to offer the same invasion of privacy.

raverboy

[nerdy_guy]

Yeah, its okay if he wants to see what you're doing(Maybe he doesn't have a life). Tell him that you want to install the same software on his computer so you'll also see what he's doing whenever you want to. Also, install a software on his phone so that every time he sends sms, he sends a copy to you.

Dump him immediately IF he tries to squirm his ass out of this one.

Oh... by the way, did he tell you that he installed that software? If not, would you mind asking him why he SECRETLY installed a spy software when both of you are NOT KEEPING SECRETS from each other?

[Illusional]

i think that told her the reason that he wanted to install this piece of shit was that because they don't have any secrets between each other. that should've been the first sign that he's insecure.

i agree with nerd, you should install the same shit on his computer, and if he denies... then tell him off, and then tell him good bye.


raverboy

[nerdy_guy]

i think that told her the reason that he wanted to install this piece of shit was that because they don't have any secrets between each other. that should've been the first sign that he's insecure.

i agree with nerd, you should install the same shit on his computer, and if he denies... then tell him off, and then tell him good bye.


raverboy

She also posted another thread. Possibly about the same asshole. She said he doesn't initiate communication anymore. I thought she's having love problems. But after this one, I'm beginning to think he's too busy to send her an SMS because he's too busy monitoring her already.

[rain.man]

I say hit up the tranny porn sites. He wants a show, give him one *grin*

Seriously, just dump him. Breaking into cell phones is bad enough to warrant dumping, this is way over the top.

[Illusional]

move on.... two of the simplest words that i can advise you on.


raverboy

[tiffanysb]

If you really like him i would try and turn it around and put it on him.
tell him you feel like he doesnt trust you at all, and it would make you feel better if you uninstalled the program.
if you can find out the name of the program, i cna tell you how to uninstall it through your computer.
Also tell him you want a relationship with him ( if you do) but its not going to work if hes not going to give you any space.

[kitkitkitty]

If you really like him i would try and turn it around and put it on him.
tell him you feel like he doesnt trust you at all, and it would make you feel better if you uninstalled the program.
if you can find out the name of the program, i cna tell you how to uninstall it through your computer.
Also tell him you want a relationship with him ( if you do) but its not going to work if hes not going to give you any space.

he's completely outstayed his welcome. the longer this goes on the more miserable and controlled she's going to be. read her other threads and you'll see why we're all telling her to dump his sorry ass.