How could she return to abuser?

[sw1]

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[sw1]

Just found out she broke up with him a few times.

[Ailish]

it may be a few more before she finally cuts loose

[sw1]

Thanks Ailish . I just feel really bad for her now, I'm not even thinking about a realtionship anymore.

[Ailish]

Am glad you have backed off from the relationship idea, I really don't think at this stage (by the sounds of things) it would be a positive thing for your mental state.
She may get herself out and discover who she actually is rather than what he has made her, and the two of you may not get on at all.

I hope she leaves soon.

[sw1]

I asked to talk to her last week, said she'd call me Monday but still hasn’t . I think she is upset with me now. I haven’t done anything to her though.

The week before this she gave me the impression that she wanted time to be single, hang out with her friends and recover from the abusive relationship. So I supported her and she was SO appreciative and started telling me how wonderful I was. Said she was going to be my best friend and will always be there for me. The next day she saying she missed me and was asking me out again but I was busy. Then she started acting distant again and that was the end of our relationship.

It seems what she really wanted was time to hang out with her abusive ex and now it seems like his friendship is more important than mine.

Sorry for moaning but this is just so frustrating and confusing.

[misombra]

sorry. it isn't your fault. she's kinda messed up in the head. you can't take it too personal.

[sw1]

She wrote this little email to me today. She still wants to be friends with me but it sounds like she is thinking of getting back together with him. She wants to hang out with me next week now. I dont think I can do this though, I feel like a backup.

" J and I have a long history. Yes a lot involves hurt but the core is that we were good friends. I have decided that I enjoy his friendship as long as that its NOT complicated. And who knows it could start to be less fun and that is when my boundries go up."

[DarkDwarf]

I haven't even read the entire thing, but from you latest post... BACAMO. You do /not/ want to be a backup.