I found a "looking for sex" profile for the guy I was dating. :( Help?

[Petit Papillon]

Thank you Petit. People think 4 or 5 dates isn't much. But I've known this guy for the past couple of months and he made it sound like he was really interested in me. I was gonna be away for a month over the summer and he told me he wanted to do something big for me so that I wouldn't forget about him. What an ass. Oh well. Good thing I found out this early.

I know how you feel cause I fell for the same kind of guy and I'm glad you found about it so early into dating him . Kick him to the curb and let him understand that he is a piece of shit.

Well of course he is. He's being a total tool but why does she then have to go lower herself as a consequence. Best revenge she can get is to tell him straight that she knows what he's up to, isn't having a bar of it and he can go f*** himself

I see what could happen if she did it. Guys like him can lie to you like nobody else. It would be this scenario . She tells him that she knows, he starts to make excuses, sound veeery truthful ,she starts to doubt her own doubts , says to herself "mm let's give it a try, maybe i was wrong" and bang it's too late... She shouldn't tell that she knows, she should make him suffer a bit and then leave without a word so he stays there without answers like a piece of potatoes .

[whatthis]

If I were you, while still dating him, I would "by accident" make his phone or other electronic devices fall or break You know, not too expensive stuffs, so he won't ask you to rebuy them, but important enough to make him be upset for a more than a moment. You know like ps3 pad , iPod, his flat screen tv remote, maybe his mobile phone guys tend to love their electronics

hahaha you're funny. Unfortunately I'm a geek at heart. I don't think I could do that to an electronic item no matter how much I hate the owner

[whatthis]

I see what could happen if she did it. Guys like him can lie to you like nobody else. It would be this scenario . She tells him that she knows, he starts to make excuses, sound veeery truthful ,she starts to doubt her own doubts , says to herself "mm let's give it a try, maybe i was wrong" and bang it's too late... She shouldn't tell that she knows, she should make him suffer a bit and then leave without a word so he stays there without answers like a piece of potatoes .

Petit! You are so right! We broke it off 2 months ago cos he kept cancelling our dates, and I was so mad at him! And he contacted me again last week and I figured I had nothing to lose, so I decided to give him another shot. That's why, this time after finding out about the sex profile, I wanna give him a taste of his own medicine. This guy was really pursuing me (for a relationship - mind you, not sex)! I know if I confront him, he'll have his stories again. But either way, I'm not gonna trust a word he says from now on.

[Horseyguy]

You know, I totally agree with you and that's normally what I would do. I need to sober up. F*8k. I'll tell him tomorrow.

Good for you!! Just didn't want you doing something you might end up regretting, revenge always has a funny way of never feeling as good as it seemed at the time

And really do you need to be thinking of ways to get back at him? Is he worth that much?

I reckon you are worth a lot more and if you just dump his sorry arse you get to keep your pride in tact and walk away knowing you wont settle for anything less than you deserve

[Horseyguy]

I know how you feel cause I fell for the same kind of guy and I'm glad you found about it so early into dating him . Kick him to the curb and let him understand that he is a piece of shit.



I see what could happen if she did it. Guys like him can lie to you like nobody else. It would be this scenario . She tells him that she knows, he starts to make excuses, sound veeery truthful ,she starts to doubt her own doubts , says to herself "mm let's give it a try, maybe i was wrong" and bang it's too late... She shouldn't tell that she knows, she should make him suffer a bit and then leave without a word so he stays there without answers like a piece of potatoes .

Oh come on, if she leaves him hanging he will just keep pursuing her. He's a player and will keep playing until the dooor is closed.

What's the point of keeping it going to end it later? He isn't going to care if she ends it he will just move on to someone else, that's what he does

Slam the door, hard, preferably with his head in the way and don't open it again (Unless it's to slam it again)

[whatthis]

Well right now I guess I don't know what I wanna do yet. It all depends on what I feel like when/if he contacts me tomorrow and what mood I'm in.... ugh. I'm thinking of turning lesbian after all the losers I've dealth with. Or asexual. That sounds even better at this point.

[whatthis]

Slam the door, hard, preferably with his head in the way and don't open it again (Unless it's to slam it again)

That made me laugh lol

[Horseyguy]

ok hyperthetically speaking, cos you're not planning revenge because you are better than that and the guy doesn't deserve the attention

But just say you were. Does he know where you live?

If not, invite him over for a home cooked dinner and text him a fake address and make sure it's in the roughest and crappiest part of town and then call the Police and tell them there is some dodgy looking guy parked in a car looking like he's staking the place out

[whatthis]

ok hyperthetically speaking, cos you're not planning revenge because you are better than that and the guy doesn't deserve the attention

But just say you were. Does he know where you live?

If not, invite him over for a home cooked dinner and text him a fake address and make sure it's in the roughest and crappiest part of town and then call the Police and tell them there is some dodgy looking guy parked in a car looking like he's staking the place out

BAHAHAHAHAHAHAAHHAHAHA. Ok you just made my night.

Unfortunately, he knows where I live. But thank you. You gave me a good laugh.

[whatthis]

ok hyperthetically speaking, cos you're not planning revenge because you are better than that and the guy doesn't deserve the attention

But just say you were. Does he know where you live?

If not, invite him over for a home cooked dinner and text him a fake address and make sure it's in the roughest and crappiest part of town and then call the Police and tell them there is some dodgy looking guy parked in a car looking like he's staking the place out

I don't get you though. First you tell me not to take revenge and now you're giving me ideas? What's your deal Horseguy? hahaha!

[Petit Papillon]

Cook a dinner for him with a special ingredient.

Make sure there is no toilet big enough for him

[Horseyguy]

BAHAHAHAHAHAHAAHHAHAHA. Ok you just made my night.

Unfortunately, he knows where I live. But thank you. You gave me a good laugh.

Ok arrange to meet him at a bar instead and then call him and say you are running late and for him to meet you in there and to get you a "smoking hot cowboy" as you fancy a cocktail, and make sure it's a gay bar

Oh and edited to add, whilst he is there fending off the leather bike gang, sign his email address up for daily updates of gay porn so he has something to look forward to when he gets home

Man ... I so should be a scorned chick lol

[Horseyguy]

I don't get you though. First you tell me not to take revenge and now you're giving me ideas? What's your deal Horseguy? hahaha!

Cos when you wake up sober you realise he's not worth the effort but in the meantime at least we have you laughing

[jessld]

Move on. Ignore him. Move on quietly.
Dont plan to hurt him coz ur sinking down to his level and ur better than that. So just move on to the next

[vertical_sky]

Don't fault yourself for falling for a player. Players can be amazing deceptive... Check out some of my threads; I was seeing this guy for 6 months. He didn't seem at ALL a player. He wasn't smooth or super flirty. He came off as completely genuine and even a little dorky, and yet it turns out he was stringing me along the whole time. What makes a guy a good player is he knows exactly how to pull the wool over your eyes. The best thing you can do is make sure you have healthy self-esteem, and don't lower your standards (in my case, I allowed it to continue with him even when he wasn't "ready" to commit.) Beyod that, you can't blame yourself because HE is the one responsible for his actions.

Good luck!