Why do people have trouble understanding the purpose of no contact? Did you twits read wakeup's and Cerby's posts? or even take the time to carefully understand mine? We are not suggesting using "no contact" as a manipulative tool to make oneself desirable, but to use it as a cooling off period for both parties to sort things out. Not all break ups are permanent, but not all are salvageable. .....so again if you people would just take your time reading all what has been said in the thread, you will prevent yourself from looking like a total douche.